The work of a psychologist: Interesting and Useful 868 Good afternoon, Dear Friends! And we continue to study the work of a psychologist and its various features, we continue to share our experience accumulated during practice and our knowledge. I bring to your attention the eight hundred and sixty-eighth article in the series. We continue the theme from my last recent articles. The client said: “I’m taking a break for a couple of weeks. I’m not ready to leave a good psychologist.” We are investigating whether this is not an allegorical desire for him to leave the psychologist. There, in the comments, readers had such questions. It has been suggested that a person who wants to leave cannot be stopped. And if he did stay in the end, then he didn’t have any resistance. And if there was no resistance, then the therapist was right that he was “trying to keep the client in therapy.” Resistance is an unwillingness to continue working, which, as we assumed, was expressed in the words from the first paragraph in this article. My thoughts here are as follows. It is possible to stop a person. To do this, you need to conduct research on his words, which I spoke about earlier (he will see the reason for the desire to leave - for example, he cannot express anger directly, and will remain in therapy). It is also important to carry out preventive measures. In meetings with a client, as I wrote in the code, it is important to take the time to carefully discuss with the client what he will do in various difficult situations. We find out what kind of difficult situations such as this may be in his opinion, and what he will do when they arise. For example, a client can give an example that if he is offended by the therapist, he will not tell him about it and will silently leave. On the one hand, it is already possible to work through this situation with the client before the offense arises (why he will simply leave and not come to sort it out, express his dissatisfaction, talk about the offense). On the other hand, by giving similar examples, he will already live through similar situations, and there will be no need to actually leave, detente will already occur to some extent. Regarding the fact that there was no resistance. If we find out that he really wanted to leave, then there was resistance then. There is a desire to leave, there is also resistance, automatically. If this, of course, is not care due to the fact that the therapy has been successfully completed, since the main points have been sorted out, the client should be thanked, and so on. If there is no resistance, responding to the following words, then why bother holding back, sorting out something in the plan? resistance? And if we don’t detect it, when we suspect this very resistance, then we may miss it - the client will leave and we will not bring his therapy to a successful conclusion. I will continue to respond to some more comments tomorrow. Do you also want to share something? Please write below in the comments! It will be important and interesting for everyone to learn something useful for their work or just for themselves! Thank you for your attention! The next, eight hundred and sixty-ninth article in the series will be published soon, tomorrow or the day after tomorrow! Sign up for a consultation: + 7 - 9 6 5 - 3 1 7 - 5 6 - 1 2 If you liked the material, please click on “Say thanks”! In order not to miss anything interesting, subscribe to my publications! And please share, material on social networks! :)