From the author: Tips for parents on how to avoid hysterics, how to behave during a hysteria and in which case you need to consult a pediatrician. How to avoid hysterics? The child learns to manage his behavior and emotions. But sometimes he loses his temper. Use a variety of techniques to help you prevent tantrums in children: * Try to provide your child with the opportunity to get proper rest. Daytime sleep and a full night's sleep are the key to the stability of the nervous system. Don't go to the store if your child is hungry. If a child is tired of playing and cannot stop on his own, offer him quieter activities, reading, drawing.* Clarifying the child’s feelings. Name the child’s feelings and let him know that you share them: “I understand that you are angry,” “you’re probably offended because the boy didn’t give you the car,” “Maybe you’re angry because you didn’t get any candy.” " etc. This will help your baby learn to talk about his feelings and control them. Make it clear that, despite feelings, there are certain limits: “I understand that you are angry now, but you can’t shout in the store.” The child should know that there are situations in which such behavior is unacceptable.* Do not try to do everything for the child. Even if it seems to you that he is doing it poorly or too slowly. Give your baby the opportunity to live and explore the world independently at his own pace.* The “choice without choice” method. Create and maintain in your child the feeling that he is also taken into account. An adult understands that choice begins with three alternatives. But it will be enough for the baby if you give him the right to an “imaginary choice”, for example: do you want to wear a red or green blouse? (when the child doesn’t want to get dressed) Shall I cook you some semolina or oatmeal? (when he doesn’t want porridge). If there is no real choice, do not create an appearance, just calmly report what will happen now: “We are going to the store.” How to behave during a tantrum? * Remove everything that the child can break or get hurt on. Do not forget that a child is frightened by his own anger. Make sure that in a fit of rage he will not harm himself or anyone else around him.* Do not leave your child alone, this can frighten the baby. Be nearby, within the child's line of sight, and try to remain calm and confident.* Don't let your child think that he or she might be punished or rewarded for throwing a tantrum. Your goal is for him to see that tantrums, while terrible in themselves, do not change anything in his life, for better or for worse.* Don't resort to physical punishment. This will only worsen the child's condition. It turns out that he is being punished for something that he cannot handle.* Don't yell back at him. This will only worsen the situation, because once the baby begins to calm down and hears a cry, he will start everything with renewed vigor.* Use tactile contact. Try hugging your baby tightly and holding him in your arms for a while. But you shouldn’t forcefully hold the child; if he breaks away, it’s better to leave him on the floor.* Don’t let the child control you. If you need to leave, and the child, not wanting to stay with grandma or dad, throws a tantrum, calmly say goodbye to him and leave the house. The longer you delay the moment of leaving, the longer the hysteria will be.* Do not argue or object to the child. During a hysteria, he is not able to think sensibly.* Many parents are afraid of public hysterics. Don't let your child feel like you care. The child will soon notice that when he is hysterical, you begin to behave differently and will learn to take advantage of this. If the child’s whims and hysterics are constant, then this may be a consequence of a disease of the nervous system. Contact a child’s doctor if: - a child during a hysteria holds his breath or loses consciousness; - hysterics become more frequent and aggressive, with elements of self-harm and self-injury; - the child continues to have tantrums after 4 years; - the child throws during a tantrum.