There is healthy self-criticism, like adjusting new experiences and yourself in it, the main marker is that you are objectively getting better. When you are dissatisfied with yourself and scold yourself for not being ideal, when you are afraid of the possibility of making a mistake and someone else's dissatisfaction so that you are literally paralyzed or you run without looking back, destroying your opportunities - this is the power of the Inner Critic, who even scolds us in words that are alien and have nothing to do with us. You can take away his power in one way - he does not have his voice, he speaks to ours, so you need to stop saying all these terrible words that literally destroy you. Since these words from the outside have moved into the very core of your idea of ​​yourself since childhood, and for some this is a completely false basis, it is difficult to stop self-deprecation at once. For some, the very thought that this is someone else’s opinion and why am I doing this helps think about myself? I kind of become like that. We say, that's stupid! And no, hmm, in this situation I was stupid, but I had initially incorrect information, in fact, my intellectual abilities are at a fairly high level) Someone gradually increases self-confidence, criticizing themselves as if not seriously, ironically. Technique , which helps me, is the image of little me, whom someone is already trying to offend or she is at a loss, and I would also start to attack her myself, telling her how not very good she is and how she could do better. No really. That I did everything I could at the moment. And that I'm okay. And attention to yourself, unconditional acceptance. What you may not have received at one time once, you can fully give to yourself now. Having decapitated the internal critic, you react more calmly to external ones (nothing comes back to haunt you inside, because only if internally you can think so about yourself , the external will stick), self-confidence is not shaken, it is more difficult to manipulate you, the general psychological state, regardless of your misdeeds, is noted as more serene and self-ironic).