⁣⁣1. You need to admit that there are no “wrong” emotions. We have a clear relationship: thought⇨ emotion⇨ behavior. That is, behind every emotion there is some thought. A thought may be erroneous (the so-called cognitive fallacy), but an emotion is simply a reaction to a thought. Emotion, unlike thought, causes a number of physiological changes at the body level: tension in the nervous system, release of hormones by the adrenal glands, vegetative-vascular reactions, etc.), so it is important to teach the child how to deal with his emotions. ⁣⁣ ⚑ Never scold or punish a child for emotion. Help you live through it and then figure out what thoughts caused it. ⁣⁣ 2. Tell your child all his emotions. This is done so that the child's brain learns to identify its emotions. In order to correctly express emotions, you need to learn to be aware of them. Very often people feel that they feel bad, but they cannot determine what is “bad” behind it (anger, resentment, guilt, fear, anxiety) and, accordingly, what to do about it.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 3. Contain negative child's emotions. Containing emotions - being nearby in a calm, even, unemotional state, creating an atmosphere of acceptance and safety. Simply put: we call the child’s emotion, showing that we understand what is happening with the child and do not judge, do not get angry with him, are nearby, and do not get involved emotionally. This behavior of an adult contributes to the formation of the skill of emotional self-regulation: as the child grows up, at the time of experiencing strong emotions, he will subconsciously remember how calm and confident, for example, his mother was next to him at these moments and will be able to cope with emotions on his own.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 4. Children learn by imitation and take almost all behavior patterns from their family. Show your child how to express emotions correctly. Be sure to name your emotion first. Try to express your emotions without using "you" or "you" messages to avoid verbal aggression and pretension. For example: “I get angry when I have to repeat the same thing 20 times.”⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 5. Socially, emotions are important markers that help us build comfortable relationships with others. When you discuss a situation with a child, pay his attention, help him analyze what he felt, what others felt.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⚑ And one more very important point: do not place high demands and expectations on your child. Due to the immaturity of brain structures (the brain matures by the age of 21-25), all children do not cope well with their emotions, because throughout childhood, those areas of the brain that are responsible for emotions and desires (the limbic brain) mature faster than the neocortex ( our highest sphere of self-control). I will tell you more about this in one of the following publications. Accredited child and adolescent psychologist. Online consultations and diagnostics. W.A. 8(916)1389260