From the author: It happens that we simply cannot talk... How then can we be together, share sorrows and joys, happiness and just a bad mood? Remember a simple and long-familiar way to communicate. The original article was published on the website Family quarrels are a topic actively discussed always and everywhere. And, probably, each of us has more than once encountered a situation called “conflicts in the family.” Sometimes these are just mild quarrels, which can be described by the proverb “Darlings scold - they only amuse themselves,” sometimes these are serious quarrels that bring obvious dissonance to the relationship between husband and wife. But it also happens that disagreements, scandals and bickering between spouses lead to serious problems in the family, or even to a breakdown in relationships. Of course, there are many ways to avoid the situation from leading to open conflicts: smooth out the tensions that arise during family life, go to compromises with the other half, try not to irritate each other, etc. It’s always good if two loving people manage to come to an agreement and relieve tension before the moment when it hits with a wave of aggression, anger and irritation. But what to do if you nevertheless quarreled with your loved one, dear to you? It often happens that after a quarrel with your wife or husband, girlfriend or boyfriend, along with the desire to restore peace and harmony, there is a need to express a huge number of claims, dissatisfaction and simply talk about the negative emotions and feelings that you experience or, conversely, convey to your other half how bad you feel without her or him. But how to say this without ruining the situation even more? What to do if your spouse does not talk to you - and you do not have the courage to start communicating first? After all, only through communication can we restore peace, tranquility and happiness in the family. I invite you to remember the old, as the world, and, at the same time, new (with the advent of the Internet in our lives) way of communication - writing. Remember when your relationship was just beginning, and timidity arose at the thought that you had to confess your feelings - did the thought of romantic letters, such as those written in the century before last, ever occur to you? Maybe you even realized a desire that arose and wrote letters to your beloved or loved one? In the reality of our time, these were most likely SMS messages, but even though they were mobile, they were letters! A letter (a real letter, even if sent by email), as a way to talk, especially in a situation of conflict, has a number of positive qualities. And the first of them is the opportunity to express emotions and feelings. Remember, “paper will endure anything”? Moreover, it is absolutely not necessary to send everything you wrote to your spouse. It is important that you can not hold back the emotions that have accumulated in yourself, get rid of them - and thus get rid of the tension within you. And this is extremely important, given that pent-up emotions negatively affect our health - moral and physical. After you have poured out all the negativity on paper, I advise you to remember another proverb: “The morning is wiser than the evening,” and re-read what you wrote after at least a couple of hours. I think that you yourself have already realized that most of the “curses” and insults written in a emotional outburst are not worth being heard by your other half. So, the first useful property of a letter is that we got rid of unnecessary emotions, but at the same time we were able to maintain our partner’s peace of mind. The second positive point in a letter to a loved one is the opportunity to say everything that we have wanted for so long without unnecessary emotions. When we are ready to explode from the negativity inside, it is difficult for us to concentrate and talk about what our mind is whispering to us. The result is an extravaganza of feelings and a complete lack of common sense. And in the process of writing a letter, you can, after re-reading it several times, think about it, supplement and correct it. For example, after a quarrel, you realized that you were unable to convey to your wife that it is very important for you to hear from her not only critical remarks in your address, but also.