Breaking a relationship is not always something difficult and painful. Yes, there are breakups for the benefit of former partners. But it also happens that they leave you, they leave you, you are abandoned and you feel that your life is stopping. What are you thinking about? That your partner will come to his senses, that he (she) will somehow change his decision. About what was done wrong. About what was good in your relationship. You think about the problems that happened. Or what else can be done. You are angry with your partner. Then you feel sorry for yourself. And then it all repeats in a circle. If you are sensitive, you cry. If you are restrained, you tense up and try to control yourself. But life freezes and becomes disgusting and painful. What can you do at this moment? You can try to think about your condition in one direction. For example, yes, this is the biggest injustice in my life. Or. Yes, nothing like this had happened before in my life. Or. Yes, I will try to overcome this somehow. Or. Yes, I still have ME. Or something else. The main thing is to try to think about your condition in the same way. You can even memorize or write down this assessment of yours and put it in a prominent place. For what? Because you have a chance to break the flow of internal painful reasoning with one assessment. And one assessment is easier than a wave of internal torment. You can also lower your internal demands on yourself for a while. It's not so much about feeling sorry for yourself. So much about admitting that it’s really hard for you right now. And that in this state you cannot behave the same as before. And if you can’t, then it’s important to accept your condition. And for some time to live (or even exist) as well as possible. You can also set goals for yourself one day at a time. For some time. And it doesn’t matter what these “tasks” are. It doesn’t matter that they may seem like some kind of stumps of your usual capabilities. It doesn’t matter if your current “things” seem useless and unnecessary. If you don't see much point in these things. As long as you set yourself tasks, plans, even plans for one day, you remain psychologically alive. You stay afloat. Actually, at the moment when you can already make plans a little further than a day. Or for the future, this will already mean that you have begun to somehow get out. But even if this is not the case now. Moreover, even if you now have nothing at all except effort. There is a chance that after some time you will feel better just from the passage of time. Yes, and more. You can also try asking for support. About having someone next to you. Or someone told you something. For someone to share your experiences with you. It also happens that there are no such people nearby. Then you are left with the first three items on the “survival list”... How do you overcome moments when you feel desperately bad? Was the article useful to you? Feel free to click the “say thank you” button under the article! Have a nice day! You can subscribe to my articles and blog posts here Do you want to learn how to manage your condition? Take an online psychocorrection course individually or in a group!