The case that I want to describe demonstrates the situation of correspondence supervision. The therapist is Veronica, a 32-year-old woman who, in the process of psychotherapy, encountered a situation where her boundaries were violated. Client - Robert, her peer, a successful, handsome, well-built man, single, has a high social status. It should be said that already at the beginning of supervision it became clear that the boundaries of therapist and client were “blurred” at the origins of the therapeutic process. Due to “Robert’s extreme busyness and lack of time for unnecessary travel,” Veronica agreed to conduct sessions on “his territory” - in one of the offices occupied by Robert. Despite the fact that in her fee she included paid time for travel to Robert’s office and back , Veronica felt extremely awkward. The situation was aggravated by the fact that Robert was very attractive to her. Attractive not only in appearance, but also in all his behavior and way of living. Veronica, a divorced woman raising a small child, really liked, as she put it, “mature, self-sufficient, socially successful men.” Veronica was interested in Robert not only as a client, but also as a man. From time to time she found herself being sexually attracted to him. Believing that she could cope with the already complex contexts in the therapeutic relationship, Veronica agreed to therapy with Robert. At the time of seeking supervision, therapy had already been going on for several weeks. From the very beginning it turned out to be difficult for Veronica. First, she was touched by the story of Robert's life, which was very similar to her own story. He got married quite early. But the marriage was unsuccessful, and after some time he divorced. Since then, Robert not only had no intention of getting married, but in some sense was even afraid of women. He was afraid of “their rejection or manipulation of various kinds.” According to Veronica, for some reason she “felt a very strong desire to rehabilitate women in Robert’s eyes,” restoring his faith in the possibility of a reliable relationship. Secondly, she had sexual fantasies about the client: “I sometimes think that we could be a good couple.” Thirdly, and this was the most difficult for Veronica, from the very beginning of therapy Robert behaved in a sexually provocative manner, as if flirting with her and making ambiguous proposals. These proposals never explicitly called for sex, but did imply a violation of therapeutic boundaries. These included multiple invitations to “chat not in an office setting, but over a cup of coffee,” “meet somewhere in nature,” and “go to a concert.” All this, plus the tone in which Robert voiced these proposals, caused Veronica confusion. She invariably refused them with ambivalence. In this regard, in supervision she said: “On the one hand, I was very flattered to hear this from Robert and would even like to go. On the other hand, I understood that the therapy would simply stop there. The already meaningless and sometimes completely “dead” process will collapse completely.” It could not but cause amazement that, understanding the complexity of the therapeutic situation, Veronica maintained complete psychological anesthesia to what was happening. Sometimes it seemed that none of the events in therapy affected her. However, I knew Veronica to be a rather sensitive person and a qualified specialist, which made me doubly anxious. It goes without saying that with this state of affairs in therapy, especially in terms of the sensitivity of both its participants to the phenomena of boundaries and contact in general, therapy could not help but be paralyzed. It was for this reason that acting out externally occupied all the time of the therapeutic process. However, that's not all. The reason for Veronica's request for supervision was not so much an awareness of therapeutic difficulties as an incident that somewhat discouraged him. Arriving at one of the therapy sessions,Veronica didn't find Robert in the office. The secretary asked her to wait a little while “the boss takes a shower.” Veronica walked into the office and sat down in a chair. After a short time, the door to the office from the bathroom opened and Robert entered. And completely naked. Despite Veronica's astonished look, he slowly took a towel, dried himself and, without leaving the office, dressed just as slowly. Then he sat down in a chair to begin the session. Nothing in Robert's face or gaze, according to Veronica, indicated that he viewed what was happening as something unusual. Veronica was confused almost the entire session. Judging by her description of her condition, she was more paralyzed than confused. Of course, neither earlier nor, especially now, there could be any talk of any presence. As a matter of fact, this opportunity simply could not arise in Veronica’s focus. It was in this state that Veronica applied for supervision. It took a lot of work to restore her sensitivity to what was happening. Veronica quite clearly understood that “something wrong” was happening, but she was blocked in the awareness of her reactions. Of course, experiencing it in therapy was impossible. In addition, Veronica described herself as “absent, distant, reminding herself more of some kind of mechanism than a living person.” It is for this reason that in supervision we focused on the process of experiencing what is happening in therapy. However, any attempts I made to help restore Veronica's ability to realize were futile for some time. I said, “What is it like for you to face this kind of violence? For me, for example, your story evokes fear for you and sympathy, as well as a desire to protect you.” My words seemed to surprise Veronica. “Violence?!” she asked. It seemed like it had never occurred to her that a situation like this could be classified that way. Suddenly Veronica burst into tears and said that she felt very worried. We focused on Veronica experiencing her boundaries in her relationship with Robert. In this process, confusion and anxiety soon gave way to fear, intense shame and pain. Veronica, continuing to cry, said that she felt very vulnerable and scared. That she goes to each session with a vague feeling of the threat that a meeting with Robert poses for her. Veronica's sensitivity to her boundaries, restored in supervision, seemed to release a huge amount of experience. However, this same process, from “the steady and stable therapist she had previously imagined herself to be,” “turned her into a confused and frightened girl.” The sensitivity that returned to Veronica also had a downside - vulnerability. Veronica became more alive, but not freer. The confusion remained, but its content changed. If earlier Veronica, without noticing the obvious, asked the same question: “What to do with Robert? How can I return his right to a happy life?”, then now another question hung in the air: “How to maintain contact with Robert without destroying yourself in this contact?” Sexual interest in this young man only aggravated the situation. Veronica said: "I'm not sure I can continue working with Robert." Her voice trembled and she looked confused. I asked Veronica: “Do you think Robert knows that his behavior can cause pain to others, in particular to you?” She replied: “I don’t think he even knows about it.” I said that I thought it was fair and important that Robert could learn about the reactions he was causing in others. Horror appeared on Veronica's face. She said: “But I can’t tell him about this, it will destroy me as a therapist.” I asked, “Please tell me the nature of the risk you would take if you started talking to Robert about your feelings.” “By admitting my vulnerability to Robert, I would surrender to his power and lose myself,” Veronica said and began to cry again. In response, I was surprised: “Is it possible that,