The relationship doesn't suit you? So they created everything with their own hands. You are not the only one who, dreaming of a real Man, spent energy on “growing” him. This is called "object bias". Usually in such cases.... A woman, seeing a man attractive to her, endows him with qualities that he does not have in sight, and gives him all of herself for this without a trace. (Note, for her own imagination) And since she does this, she demands the same from him. And waits. Waiting for a response. But men and women are built differently, and a man most often responds by “missing the mark.” There’s no way for him to get into a woman’s head to read what she wants. This is one aspect. And another. Having done something once, twice... and received a couple (dozens) of reprimands, a man loses interest and withdraws. And here the pressure from the woman increases even more (we are losing it!). As a result, he either “wants to run” or “doesn’t care at all.” The woman begins to take on all the worries (“he doesn’t need anything...”, “if it weren’t for me...”). What's next, you know: the husband lies down on the sofa and perceives his wife as an annoying fly... So many live until the end of their days, offended or resigned to their fate. Those who are not satisfied with this option begin to think about how to change all this. But the force of inertia leads to the usual stereotype of “tyrant-victim”. If you are smart enough, then next is a meeting with yourself. This is where the most serious work unfolds: working with your own attitudes and beliefs. Everything that seemed so right and understandable crumbles to dust. What was previously denied turns out to be the only true one. Of course, it’s “blowing the roof off.” And so we, wounded, but inspired by our OWN victory, move to a new level. At first, the new world is simple and pleasant. But no one promised that there would be no “problems” - there will be. It’s just that now you won’t have them “for what?”, but “for what?” or “why?” As in science, a problem is a problem that has a solution, and if you don’t see it today, then you will see it tomorrow. And with such an attitude you can live more effectively, don’t you agree? There is always a solution, and in a calm state it is found much faster, often almost magically. And note, focusing on your needs does not at all mean being selfish, as we were told. Try to look at your union with a man and answer the questions. • How do you met?•How did he see you then?•What attracted him?•What attracted you to him?•At what point did you begin to claim “his place, his powers”?•How did he react to these advances?•The situation now?• How you can change your behavior?