As you know, emotional dependence is a painful attachment to another person; it is a strong need for a relationship with this person, and this may not necessarily be a partner, but any other person. In this article, I will talk about a client case from my practice, having previously obtained the client’s consent. Names have been changed. We recently did a lot of work on liberation from emotional dependence with a girl, Anna, 33 years old. She had an emotional dependence on her work colleague, Ruslan, 49 years old. First things first. The girl got a new job. There she met a colleague who, for the time being, enjoyed communicating with her, she felt. She liked him immediately. She began to become active. The man did not show activity, but at first he showed interest (again, according to her feelings). She invited him on dates herself. He didn't specifically say yes or no. He answered evasively, saying that he would think about it. Gradually she became more insistent, and he began to avoid her. She wondered why he didn't agree to a date. What emotions and sensations did the girl experience? The man couldn't get out of her head. She felt intense melancholy, she was drawn to him, she could not think about anything else. As soon as he began to move away from her, she began to experience “withdrawal”, like a drug addict. I talked about this condition in the article Don’t get rid of emotional dependence this way: storm, thunderstorm and hurricane She slept poorly at night and ate almost nothing. There was no appetite. I couldn’t concentrate at the workplace, where they often overlapped at work. Moreover, he avoided meeting with her in every possible way, but work is work, and as part of their work they were obliged to interact. She often had headaches, emotional dependence was felt right down to physical pain. Meanwhile, she continued to hope that someday he might agree to go on a date with her. She continued to call and write to him. Calls and messages went unanswered. And at any moment, if he agreed to go on a date with her, she was ready to drop everything and run. She couldn't control herself. I couldn’t help but call, I couldn’t help but write. She couldn’t restrain herself, although she understood that everything was going wrong... She worked in this company for about six months. I quit because a new boss came in, with whom my working relationship did not work out. She immediately found another job, as she was a highly qualified specialist. And it would seem that the object of dependence is no longer nearby, there are no more intersections at work, and the symptoms of emotional dependence should weaken and gradually disappear. But it was not there. This is where not just “withdrawal” began, but a severe, difficult-to-bear painful condition. She was constantly in a state of extreme stress. It seemed to her that life had stopped, and without at least “seeing” him, she simply could not live. At this stage Anna turned to me. The work was difficult and lengthy. Anna admitted that she is emotionally dependent. Before that, it seemed to her that she simply had great love and he was obliged to reciprocate her feelings. She landed, so to speak, and then the real work began. I talked about the steps to get rid of emotional dependence in the article Instructions from a psychologist: how to get out of love addiction in 5 steps As a result of our joint work, the girl learned to build healthy relationships, her self-esteem rose, she began to value herself and her resources, her time and energy and guide them in a direction that is useful to you. I took up my favorite hobby and literally came to life. She was no longer interested in Ruslan. Next, we found and worked through the roots of her emotional dependence. The work was long, difficult, painstaking. But everything worked out for us. Anna tried - she had strong motivation - she was tired of being in a state of constant stress. She wanted to feel the joy of life again. What are the negative consequences?