Our career, our family happiness, our financial well-being is largely determined by the ability to cooperate with the people around us. The easiest way to learn cooperation is when communicating as a couple, it is easier to realize the vital necessity of this. Competition and individualism can destroy relationships in a couple, and this can be countered by cooperation. Having learned to cooperate in a couple, you can easily apply the acquired skills in building relationships in a professional environment. Two people who decide to build their relationship on the principles of cooperation must accept several rules. Avoid “hunger.” A couple always has something to want from each other. I admit that this rule is not completely feasible and ALL needs are difficult to satisfy. It can be difficult to give the freedom, support or knowledge that a partner needs. A good example of extreme “hunger” is when one partner wants to have sex twice a week, but the other does not wants this completely, in this situation it is difficult to come to a compromise. But when partners differ only in quantity (one wants to have sex 3 times, and the other only two), it is much easier to find a compromise solution that would suit both partners and eliminate hunger. Cooperation allows the couple to make a discovery - what was previously in the lack of steam receives in excess Often, “hunger” arises against the backdrop of partners’ commitment to savings. In fact, the “problem” arose as a result of the partners’ commitment to saving “strokes”; this saving does not help eliminate “hunger.” Equal rights and responsibilities. A good illustration of the imbalance of rights is the statement that a woman should invest more in the household, especially if she is a housewife. At the same time, in fact, she may spend much more effort and energy than a working man, and she may have fewer rights to rest. Despite the recognition of the fact of inequality, it is difficult for men to give up their privileges and equalize their rights. Such inequality does not give men an advantage in all areas. For example, the statement that in the sexual sphere only the man is responsible for sexual life, only the man is responsible for the quantity and quality of sex. A woman expects initiative from a man in this matter, and when this inequality is pointed out to her, she does not strive to eliminate it. Power games are prohibited. Fear of “hunger” and the lack of any resource pushes one or both partners to threaten, scream, offend, ignore, especially if they were taught in childhood to achieve what they want in this way. Having noticed such behavior, partners should stop such ways of achieving what they want. Prohibition of secrets . Cooperation requires partners to be open to their wants and needs. Cooperation involves everyone's ability to ask openly and directly for what they want. The fear of “hunger” encourages a person to remain silent so that satisfying the desires of one of the partners does not lead to a reduction in resources. How is a direct request different from robbery or extortion? When the person asking directly and openly voices what he wants, he indicates his position, and this can be the beginning of negotiations and cooperation. Cooperation, of course, is not a guarantee that the person asking will receive everything he wants, but this process can turn “hunger” into abundance. With cooperation, if a person does not immediately receive what he wants, it is necessary to continue to express the request and clearly indicate when it will be made will be satisfied. Ban on rescue games. A false sense of guilt or shame or false concern can push one to provide help, without a corresponding request from the partner, because perhaps he does not need anything. Rescue violates rule No. 4 about directly voicing one’s needs and creates the ground for power games that cause guilt and shame in one of the partners. The other extreme may be demonstrative ignorance of the needs of the partner that he is aware of. The conclusion is not to do it unless asked, but also not.