The topic of sex is still so taboo in our country that it’s even scary to write the title of the article. And it will talk specifically about sexual shame. This concept in psychology means a feeling of increasing anxiety, fear, embarrassment when it comes to intimate topics. At the same time, a person who has become a hostage to sexual shame experiences problems with his own sexuality (most often, he does not recognize it at all and considers it a “dirty, vicious” part of his “I”), cannot freely talk about sex and his preferences in it with a partner . Sexual shame concerns even such innocent topics as menstruation and wet dreams in growing children. Where does the shame come from, which concerns something that almost all adults do? Religion, of course, has had a huge influence in this regard. In any traditional canons, sex before marriage is forbidden (for some reason this is especially true for women), therefore there is no sex enlightenment. Apparently, a person, upon getting married, must receive all this important knowledge by connecting to the channels of his ancestors, or this program is automatically activated when you put a “squiggle” in the registry office (or earlier in a religious institution). In principle, previously all these norms were completely justified: people got married when they were just beginning to develop secondary sexual characteristics. However, over time, these norms have simply become ungodly outdated. People get married closer to the age of thirty - by this time, from a biological point of view, we are already starting to become too old for reproduction. So these norms, to put it mildly, do not fit modern realities. Society and its norms put great pressure on its smallest and most innocent representatives - children. Adults shame children for exploring their bodies, parents do not show their feelings in front of their children, pretending that they are almost neighbors. Girls are not taught about menstruation, and boys are not taught about their characteristics during puberty. In general, adults carefully pretend that sex does not exist. Of course, this approach gives rise to sexual shame in the future. This scenario is passed down from generation to generation. By the way, adults in general incredibly often sexualize the actions of children who do not even understand why they are being shamed. Sexual shame can be acquired as a result of any trauma on this basis. For example, victims of rape are very susceptible to this, since, again, society often shifts responsibility for the committed act onto the victim himself. This can and should be combated (this does not mean that you need to shout about it at every corner!) in several ways .Firstly, high-quality sex education will save you from many problems. It should start, of course, in the family. Who else, if not parents, should deal with this issue? In turn, adults should also improve their sexual literacy. Secondly, if sexual trauma occurs, then only working with a specialist will help. Thirdly, partners need to learn to talk to each other and discuss their desires and preferences. Who else should you discuss this with, if not with the person with whom you directly enter into sexual relations? Unless with a competent sexologist. Are you for or against sex education? Are you fluent on this topic? Have you experienced sexual shame? Book a consultation: WhatsApp, Telegram +7 913 380-83-42 Skype: as3808342 Learn to manage your emotions!💪