From the author: Good luck to everyone who wishes to have a trusting relationship with children. Trust is a psychological state in which a person voluntarily, consciously and without hesitation makes his personal well-being dependent on an external factor that the person trusts. Trust is an open, positive relationship between people, containing confidence in the decency and goodwill of another person with whom the trustor is in one relationship or another. A sign of personal trust is frankness and willingness to share intimate, secret information. To what extent can an adult make his personal well-being dependent on the child? And how to trust children? Is an adult ready to share personal information with a child? Trust between adults who are responsible for their actions can be equal. Trust between an adult and a child, where one is responsible for his actions, and the second does not yet know how to fully do this, is very different from the basic concept of trust. What can you trust a baby at the age of one year? It is possible to play with toys and hold the spoon yourself when he eats... It is difficult to assert that the child will not break the toy or drop the spoon. But this will already be an open, positive relationship, where the adult is ready to take on most of the responsibility for his own and the child’s personal well-being. He will repair or replace the toy, pick it up, and wash the spoon. Perhaps the adult is not ready to take on most of the responsibility for his own and the child’s personal well-being. Then he will scold the child for the broken toy and dropped spoon, and perhaps he will still replace the toy and pick up the spoon. Why would an adult swear in such a situation? Due to the physiological capabilities of the body of a one-year-old baby, he performs difficult work, taking a toy and a spoon. What then does the scolding (anger) of an adult refer to? It is possible that he himself is not ready to take responsibility for establishing a trusting relationship with the child. You can be angry with your equal. It’s strange to be angry at someone whose body has not yet fully formed. An adult really needs to earn money for every toy, food..., allocate time for work and to communicate with the child. This is a lot of hard work. And to claim that a child will be able to understand and appreciate him at the age of one is absurd. Where does the anger come from? Everyone has their own, precisely their own, that I was fascinated (myself) by the trust in the child, and then became disappointed (myself). The child cannot understand this yet, and the emotional fear from the adult’s anger remains with the child. Time passes, some things are broken, some are lost by the child... and the adult earns money for it all. What is this disrespect by a child of an adult and his work? Rather, it is the child’s inability to appreciate the adult’s contribution to the life of the child and the adult. Due to the fact that the body is still forming, due to the fact that the child is not yet accepted in society as a person responsible for his actions (up to 18 years of age). And day after day, the adult takes responsibility for establishing a trusting relationship with the child. Of course, you can be blamed for a lot of things: you’re sitting wrong, you’re going to the wrong place, you’ve got involved with the wrong company... But you can trust. Let him go and try different life situations himself, and an adult, confident that he will accept his child in any way (and this is trust in himself), does not scold the child, does not get angry, but is interested in his personal world and provides him with his inner personal world, where already life experience has been accumulated. From this world you can tell what is pleasant in life and what is not, what makes you angry and what makes you sad, etc. Children initially tell adults everything they do and think. They stop communicating about their inner world when their inner world is scolded by adults. The more you scold, the less trust, until it ends altogether. They stop communicating about their inner world when an adult is not frank with the child, wants to know about the child’s inner world, but does not talk about his own, or speaks, but lies. In this case, trust also disappears. Trust is a pleasant feeling.