How to get rid of resentment? This is the question that everyone asks themselves if they have ever felt offended. But first, I would like to say that the very desire to get rid of something carries a negative connotation. Everything that is in us is all part of us, it is ourselves and how is it even possible to get rid of ourselves... it’s like removing a vital organ, although it can simply be cured. It is impossible to get rid of it, you can only rewrite it (heal your Soul from experiences), that is, change your attitude and accept it. Everything we experience is born in our head, in thoughts, feelings, so circumstances and people have absolutely nothing to do with it... they act as an irritant that catches the right “hook”. A person’s reaction is connected with already established internal beliefs (worldview, outlook on life), expectations, and if external circumstances diverge from them, then due to this negative emotions arise, in particular, resentment... the person did not live up to expectations and now you are already experiencing a whole spectrum unpleasant emotions. The point is that we are all different and everyone has their own view of what is happening, we also need to remember that we all have the right to this view, to our opinion (especially in relation to others). Being offended, we do not accept other people’s opinions about ourselves and do not want to accept a person as he is... For example, “in my opinion, a person should behave in a certain way, but everything turned out to be completely different than in my expectations...”. If you accept the fact that a person is simply the way he is (with all his advantages and disadvantages) and he doesn’t know how to do it any other way (or doesn’t want to), then there will be nothing and no one to be offended by. You can cope with resentment if you change your attitude towards the situation and the person, looking at what is happening from different angles, seeing the situation through the eyes of your “offender”... throw away all illusions and try to see the facts. For example, a wife is offended by her husband because he does not pay her enough attention and care, he works a lot and is tired... She begins to imagine the illusion that he no longer loves her (cheats on her). And he just works hard to satisfy all her needs - that's a fact. A classic conflict in which grievances and misunderstandings most often arise. When a person has no goal in life, he does not strive for anything, he becomes bored and his brain begins to throw up negative thoughts (illusions) diluting the gray everyday life. Take care of yourself, start doing something, when your brain is busy with something important to you, you will have no time to be offended. It may sound corny, but you need to learn to let go of the past. By constantly replaying offensive moments in our heads, we feed our own resentment. Resentment actually only brings self-destruction. You need to realize your feelings, admit to yourself that “I am offended,” make a decision to forgive and move on. Everything that happens in our life is our experience, and most often we gain life experience from negative situations. All the tests that happen in our lives are our tests of strength. Thank the people and the trials that these trials brought, because they make us stronger. A self-confident person is not offended by anything, he always accepts responsibility for everything that happens to him, he knows about his shortcomings and is not afraid to admit them. We all have our weaknesses, but the strong will always turn their weaknesses into their strengths. Therefore, the best way to stop being offended is to learn to be self-critical and raise your self-esteem to adequate... learn to believe in yourself, your strengths and love yourself. Take care of yourself and your loved ones!