Tell me, who among you doesn’t want to keep everything under control? Why do you need to do this? Control allows you to create the illusion of safety and control reality. Therefore, modern man has created a myth about the ability to control everything. We strive to control events, loved ones, colleagues at work, our spouse, our thoughts, emotions. However, how successful is your control? I can assume that excessive control leads to a complete loss of control. We cannot control spontaneous reactions. For example, when a client comes to me with a fear of blushing in public or a fear of sweating, then if he is trying to suppress these natural processes, then what happens? That's right, he's redder and sweats even more! Another very common example of control. During intimacy, a man is afraid of not being up to par and begins to control his erection. What does he get? Suppression of sexual potency. What is jealousy? This is control of one partner by another. At the first stages, this control can even be perceived as a special manifestation of love. However, over time, this zealous control becomes intolerable torture. In this case, the person being controlled already wants to either really change or escape from control. If a client comes to me with a fear of getting sick with some dangerous disease, then he goes to doctors and undergoes numerous examinations in order to keep the situation under control. As a result of excessive preventive control, fear does not decrease, but only increases. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is based on a pathological desire to control one’s reality. Psychological solution Before moving on to control, it is necessary to determine whether we can control or cannot control what we want to establish control over. Will control be productive or will there be no benefit from control? Even if control is quite real, care must be taken that control does not become a rigid scenario. To prevent this from happening, allow yourself not to control some aspects of the situation. Then your control will be more reliable. In short-term strategic therapy, special techniques have been developed that allow you to successfully work with excess control. What do you control in your life and with what result? If the article was interesting for you, then the author will be pleased for your thanks. This will inspire you to write new interesting articles! Sign up for a consultation: phone, WhatsApp +7-905-793-2237 skype: sovlad2 Oleg Vladimirovich Surkov I work with the Soul!