Or rather, she has matured to the realization of the fact that she needs to finally start a healthy relationship. The “wrong” ex is dealt with and a new object of passion has been carefully chosen. “Maybe this is too much?” - she asked herself a question. But no - if you strictly follow the instructions for moving away from codependency, everything cannot fail to work out! And after all, what was written in her memo on treating a man came true: a reasonable dose of coldness, therapeutic distance, cunning communication, and carefully dosed correspondence .But, something went wrong. The man fell for it, but she herself began to become more and more sour. It’s like the famous joke: the Jew did everything that God’s covenants required, but for some reason the Lord was in no hurry to fulfill his requests. “Lord, what else have I done wrong?” - the man begged. "It's like that." “What’s the matter then?” “But I don’t like you!” God answered honestly. So for some reason our heroine did not fall in love and did not become happy. Despite not fulfilling all the points of the recipe. In that damp, wrong novel, everything It was out of place, but why does my heart ache so much when I remember it? About that uncalculated happy time when it was not necessary to follow the instructions, but on the contrary, everything was done contrary to them. Because it was life, not a game. And let it be according to the laws. genre, that immature relationship fell apart. But if they had told her now that the good fairy could bring everything back, the woman would not have hesitated for a minute. The new “experimental” person, who never became a partner, was not to blame for anything. she fell in love with him. He is good, and their communication is built along the main line... She picked up the phone, went into contacts, she didn’t even need to look for a familiar number... Those who have suffered from codependent relationships should not rush to rush. plunge headlong into a new novel. Don’t think that past experience can teach you anything. Moreover, if you start literally following certain schemes, building relationships with another person according to a cheat sheet. Live your “failure” first. Feel his strengths and weaknesses. Don't rush to make new mistakes.