From the author: Usually, a denomination or religion replaces a parental figure, and therefore it is more difficult to survive separation, because it’s like getting angry at God, not only that, but also quarreling with him! I want to reassure you right away that a confession or religion is not God. In response to the note I wrote, “The lost fire of anger is a direct path to illness,” questions arose. Question: “..., but this topic looks different psychosomatically :). If I get angry, I die instantly! And then I get sick for a long time, if I allowed myself to express these feelings, I’ve been studying this topic for several years...” Answer: 1. It is generally accepted that psychosomatics is a reflection of mental experiences at the level of the body.2. I assume that unconsciously you punish yourself for your anger. 3. Knowing you and from my own experience, I would like to note that psychotherapy with spiritual practitioners is more difficult (the reasons are given below).4. In the Gestalt approach, your death is retroflection - an internal conflict of beliefs and needs. A person's body shows the conflict that occurs in his soul. At the beginning of working with a problem, a psychologist helps to find a formed stereotype (introject) such as - “Being angry is bad”, - “Good girls don’t get angry”, - “This is pride”, - “God will punish!” ... Usually, a person takes these phrases as a basis for behavior from significant persons: mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, teacher, teacher, guru... Instructions replace values ​​for a person without his own comprehension, experience and verification of the internal response in the body - mine, - not mine , - how do I feel after I act in a certain way? Often, a message from a significant person, like an alien seed (introject), gives - mutated fruits in the form of thoughts, speech, behavior - of a kind person. Those around you usually expect the support of a kind, enlightened person, without the right to fatigue, or their own boundaries. But the soul is unique, it seems to push out alien experience and force a person to his own path of development. On the physical level, this protest often manifests itself as nausea, belching, vomiting, a lump in the throat, or chest pain, other manifestations of the body... The body seems to shout to consciousness - pay attention! If you don’t understand the reason and don’t change, we will die! And here the methods of Gestalt therapy are extremely useful. They will help you notice in time unconscious mechanisms of escaping reality (for example, deflection, projection...) and clarify the reason for this. It is quite possible that getting to know your inner world will give you a shock! Most likely, there are demons there))) - those subpersonalities that you did not notice or suppressed, tormented by spiritual practices. Also, spiritual practitioners may have to experience an existential conflict - a way out of the merger and the formation of their own scale of values. Usually, a denomination or religion replaces a parental figure, and therefore it is more difficult to survive separation, because it’s like getting angry with God, not only that, but also quarreling with him! I want to reassure you right away that a confession or religion is not God. Often this is just business, trading in spiritual knowledge, but in principle it is very heavy karma))). God will certainly not abandon you, his love for you is unconditional - this is air, water, sun, earth... and he will not deprive you of this. The fire of anger is necessary to get out of the merger and form primary autonomy. I like to conduct the training “Legalization of Aggression” - a small test. There is only one question in it. If you gave vent to your anger? How would you show anger?.... An image appeared? For religious people, it can be a merger with the wrath of God - a hurricane, lightning.... try to play it like in a play, experience it in motion, give the body the opportunity to enjoy it. (I warn you that in reality you cannot do what you can live by entering the role). Afterwards, feel how to be this character. In life, choose for yourself a reasonable way of expressing anger using the resource that you have mastered as a result of action in the play. For example: There is a need for personal space.1. You can shout that everyone is tired3810