Why does an already born child need a father? In order for the child to learn to love, that is, to build relationships with two people at once: with mom and dad, and with a woman and with a man. Growing up, the child will meet in his life with adult men and women: educators, teachers, coaches, professors, business partners, managers. If a child does not have such experience of communication, then it will be very difficult for him in society. From infancy, the child develops the ability to keep both his father and mother attentive. It is important to understand that with each parent the child will develop his own type of attachment. If the attachment is healthy, then the child will transfer this healthy experience into his adult life. If a girl has not developed the experience of loving two at once: dad and mom, then after giving birth to her child, it will be very difficult for her to maintain attention on both her husband and the newborn child. Loving both her husband and her newborn child at the same time will be a big problem for her. Dear dads! You are mistaken, I think that the role of the father is to give money for diapers, a nanny, doctors, groceries. The child needs the father in order for separation from the mother to occur. The mother and child represent a dyad - one whole organism, conditionally up to 3 years. During these three years + 9 months of pregnancy, the woman attaches the child to herself so much that she treats him as her own part of the body. Pathological attachment can last until the end of the mother’s life. Without letting go of the child, a woman shortens her own years of life and does not allow an adult child to live his own life. Dear mothers! Your child will not make up for the deficiency of your own childhood. The position: “This is only my, my child. This is only my little blood. Only I know how to love him” is harmful and destroys the lives of all family members. Dads know how to build boundaries, defend them and teach the child to set own boundaries. A selection of articles "Family and Parenthood" PS Psychology of Parenthood - this is a new series of books for current and future parents, which I plan to publish in 2024, subscribe so as not to miss the release of the first book, "How to conceive, give birth and love." Thank you you for your responses and “thank you” under the article and I invite you to sort out the issues that worry you.© All rights reserved. Reprinting an article or fragment is possible only with a link to this site and attribution to Artcurs online "Liberation from emotional stress""