How can you destroy love? How many people strive to quickly build relationships, to escape loneliness, and how many relationships collapse for reasons that we will list below. We will not talk about cases of physical or emotional violence and other types of cruelty. We will talk about how, with a stable level of good attitude towards your partner, you can unconsciously make him want to run away. - Greed for material goods and emotional stinginess in words, support, warm hugs. At such moments, the partner feels unimportant, not valuable, not worth anything, so that for his sake one could strain at least a little. The requests to each other in the family often contain very important needs. The wife asks for compliments, and the husband asks to “leave him alone.” Everyone wants recognition of the importance of their desire: in compliments there is support for the beauty and attractiveness of a partner, and in the ability to leave alone - respect for a person’s desire to be alone, despite the fact that he is a dad and husband. - Devaluation of a partner’s requests. The wife asks for a ring, and the husband buys her an iron because it is more practical and useful. At this moment, the husband puts his wife in a childish position, hurting (with his knowledge of what she needs) her adult, feminine part, which knows what she wants. - Lack of time together (for relaxation, conversations, family holidays). It would seem a simple thing when partners stop spending a sufficient amount of time together (each family determines the measure of this sufficiency in its own way), and the meaning of living together is lost. Partners, as it were, secretly convey the information that “you are not the most important for me, work, my business, friends, hobbies, etc. are more important to me.” Family traditions, lunches, dinners, birthday celebrations, meeting friends, going to the cinema and outdoor recreation are very important for the family. This is the internal culture that unites the family and makes initially strangers one whole. Often, partners in a marriage bring the rules that belong to their parent family, then each begins to pull the blanket on himself, forcing the other to live by the rules of his parent family. The goal of marriage and partnership is to create your own rules that satisfy everyone. Once they are created, each partner will feel relief and unity. - Quarrels and conflicts over trifles very often indicate chronic marital dissatisfaction. It is removed for a short time with the help of mini-scandals. A “pseudo-world” sets in, which is easy to destroy, since there is no true clarification of dissatisfaction. Problems in sexual relationships, like a mirror, reflect the difficulties that a couple has. Sexual disorders are not the cause, but the consequence of the problems that exist between spouses. Sexual topics are often taboo, and it’s awkward to talk about “it.” The inability to clarify sexual desires leads to dissatisfaction, fear and shame to discuss it. - Resentments cause serious harm to relationships, in such relationships one of the partners “always does everything wrong” and is forced to bear the burden of guilt. More often than not, women are offended, often getting pleasure from it. A man, as a rule, stops doing something for the relationship after some time. “Why try,” he thinks, “If everything is always wrong anyway.” It turns out that in such a situation there is no motivation to do something for each other. - When there is little feedback from partners or a partner. And the other (husband, wife) does not know whether he/she is doing this or not, whether the dinner is delicious or not, whether he/she liked it or not. There are no words of support, praise, or a feeling of being “needed.” - When there is insufficient or no support at all. Family and partnerships can become a quiet haven for relaxation and fulfillment, or they can be a stormy sea in which strength and tension are always needed to withstand. - The inability to talk and negotiate is a serious obstacle to the development of relationships. Chronic “not being heard” can make you want to spit