There are no random people among psychologists. Or rather this: all casual people sooner or later leave their profession. Each “non-accidental” person has a personal lived, grieved, mourned, suffered, experienced, accepted, conscious story. Everyone has their own healed wound. Yes, your psychologist is calm, thinks clearly, understands despair, pain, anger, contains them or invites them to explore, supports, jokes. I am ready to go with you into any of your experiences: confusing, frightening, alarming, strange, ridiculous. After all, each of them remembers from their own experience what it was like to hate the whole world, to blame everyone around them, and even more so to blame themselves. Not to trust and be suspicious, not to believe that there is at least one in this world who could help, who is able to understand. What is it like not to love yourself, not to love your reflection in the mirror. Forbid yourself to feel, only demand, demand from yourself, do not allow yourself to rest. The main life task of every person is to give life to himself. Erich Fromm Everyone remembers... and everyone UNDERSTANDS a frightened and confused client who at first has all his thoughts in a heap, a lot of everything at once, anxiety, pain and nothing is clear or a dry statement of facts, and feelings seem to be absent at all. AND HERE this joint work begins, and it is launched by a single thought, one single desire of the client: “The way I eat doesn’t suit me. I want to figure it out, understand. I want something different, differently. I need your support.” And NOW, thanks to a joint study of the client’s history, bit by bit, little by little, little by little, the client’s life begins to come together again. It’s painful, unbearable, sad, anxious (but not alone, but next to someone, a psychologist is nearby), tears, relief, a step forward, warmth, then it also hurts, again it’s unclear and the tears just don’t flow, but we continue, again relief and again warmth, smile. And both the client and the psychologist feel warm because things are starting to work out. This is their joint work, where the client leads where he wants, and the psychologist is nearby, shows what is important, but does not take steps instead of the client, does not push, waits... this is the process of psychotherapy (confidential, individual, authentic, at your own pace ). And each such process, no matter how anyone tried, could not and will not be able to describe it in the article. And it’s not worth it, because it’s better to live once than to read about it a hundred times. The ability to tell another all your darkest secrets, all your forbidden thoughts, your vanity, your sorrows, your passions and yet be completely accepted by that other is incredibly self-affirming. Irvin Yalom