Sometimes a person does something because he has to. Or because he has to. Or because there is no other choice. The person's face does not express pleasure. On the contrary, it expresses displeasure. Or, at best, detachment. When you look at people on the subway, you understand that they travel because they have to. If they had a choice, they would choose not to go. Or go to another place. But they didn’t choose, they gave their right to choose to someone. To be honest, I often give it away too. Or rather, it is impossible to give away the right to choose, but the choice can not be attributed to oneself. There are many ways to do this: 1. “I was forced.” Even if I am forced to do something at gunpoint, I still have options - disobey and die, for example. I will choose to obey, but I will choose it, not the man with the gun.2. “That’s right/I must/I need.” Who decides whether to follow this rule or not? I decide. I might never follow it and have a different life, maybe worse, maybe better. 3. “I’m that kind of person.” “I’m lazy, that’s why I didn’t.” “Laziness” can hinder or help, but it cannot choose. But I can. And there is nothing wrong with not doing something. Why do people attribute the choice not to themselves? Then, to avoid the selection procedure. It is not as simple as it may seem. You need to be resilient enough to anxiety to take your time and give yourself time to get your bearings. You need to be sensitive to notice how I feel now and what I want. You need to have the courage to confront those who wants to impose their will on you. You need to have the courage to consider options that will require change and some loss. You need to be flexible to give up choices that are no longer suitable. It’s easier to avoid the selection procedure. And sometimes that's a good choice.