From the author: recently, very often in consultations, the topic of trust began to come up, I somehow didn’t attach much importance to it. But when I came across this topic in a relationship, I still decided to think about it. Trust is a door between people (and between people and the world of possibilities) that can be opened in different ways, i.e. be completely closed, slightly open or open at all. Initially, we are born with an open door and are ready to let in all the diversity of possibilities, but every time we encounter violence against us (this can be both physical and emotional violence) and our door begins to close. No matter how trivial it may sound, it is the responsibility of parents to foster trust. The child's survival and the satisfaction of his needs depend on them until he can take care of himself. Parents do not always cope well with this task, but not because they are lazy, but because they act as they were taught, because they do not always realize what they are doing, etc. And what happens is what happens. We grow up and it is difficult for us to trust in relationships, it is difficult to open up, to show ourselves as real to the person who is nearby, and sometimes to ourselves. And logically, this is correct. How can you trust without knowing a person, without eating at least a spoonful of salt with him? But this is where we are mistaken. We expect confirmation from a person that we can trust him, while initially not trusting him ourselves. Of course, he senses your distrust and does not trust you either. And here everything is logical. After all, it is impossible to respond with sincerity to someone who is not sincere himself! Initially, not trusting people, we deprive ourselves of the opportunity to receive (satisfy our needs, so to speak). Not trusting a person, we make an enemy out of him, and then try to make friends with him. It would probably be more logical to make friends from the beginning, to be more open and sincere, without being afraid to be vulnerable. And the more we close ourselves off, the more difficult it will be to open up. After all, it’s a habit to be closed and certainly not the best! We very often associate trust with guarantees. If we trust a person, then he supposedly guarantees us acceptance, respect, support, love, in general, everyone has their own. But there can be no guarantees in this deal with the world. But trust in others is only possible when you have found “self-trust.” Honesty to yourself is what can help you stop being divided. Looking honestly at our fears can give us the opportunity to change or accept them. This path, of course, is not easy and sometimes very long, because after so much time the habit of “being on guard” has formed, but the good news is that everything can be changed, you can slowly open the doors, try, open up and trust. In conclusion, I would like to say, the most important thing is that gives us confidence - it saves vitality and energy. When we forbid ourselves to trust others and ourselves, we suppress many feelings and emotions. And emotion is energy. When it begins to move inside us, the soul responds and begins to sound. In order to suppress the energy of an emotion, you need to direct several times more energy to it. Thus, a lump of emotional energy is created inside, fenced on all sides by the same energy, but directed against the one inside. The body fights with itself, and in this fight there is no winner. Everyone loses. I realized for myself that there is still something to work on in the topic of trust, but now I know exactly where I want to go. I know that I can do everything myself, but I don't want to do it anymore!)