Have you seen how domesticated aliens behave? Have you seen how they come into contact with ordinary adult earthlings? Have you seen how they do it? Have you seen it?! For those who haven't seen it, I'll tell you. They fall to the floor. Face down or back of the head. From all sides, with sound. Bam! And no sparks! Along the way, they don’t just cry, they scream, scream heart-rendingly! They may not fall. Then they run around the room, bumping into all standing objects and stepping on all lying ones. BAM, BAC, AAAAAAAAAAA, UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU, YYYYYYYY .... They beat themselves with their hands or what will be in their hands. Or not yourself. Or they don’t hit, but throw objects. No. Not this way. They are thrown, with all their might, far away or at an adult. At the same time, they are so small, cute and unfortunate, these creatures from another planet! Such: like this or like this and also like this. The spectacle is not for the faint of heart... In this whole nightmare, the most terrible thing is the reaction of an earthling. Anyone who has seen such a “contact of civilizations” or participated in it himself, as they say in common parlance, will not let you lie. At these moments, an adult, educated, cultured person receives such a mass of emotions based on the rich variety of his thoughts that the restoration of a normal emotional background can take a long time. To an adult: sorry, scary, amazing, he was caught by surprise, he is confused, stunned, discouraged, delighted, angry, POWERLESS! And this is not the whole palette of feelings! In addition to all of the above, it remains to tell what stupid things an adult “earthling” begins to do. He: begins to feel sorry, takes the child in his arms, rocks him, explains “with the help of a slide rule” why this is impossible, immediately does what the unfortunate child wished! But everything is much simpler! A child's tantrum is a very unpleasant sight. And yet you shouldn’t be scared, just remember that in this whole situation you are, first of all, a spectator, and your child is an actor. If this is not the first time you have had a tantrum, then most likely you have given in at some point, following the lead of a child’s whim. How does this happen? And like this. - I want it! - This is the kind of thing that little children shouldn’t... probably... - I want to! - You see, if you take this thing, you will probably feel bad... - I want to! And at this moment the child leans back in dissatisfaction (or falls forward, or...), hits, bursts into tears and receives what just WAS IMPOSSIBLE. Is it possible now? No, of course, but he was so hurt, he’s crying, he feels bad, he needs to be calmed down somehow urgently! Common situation? As always, let's start analyzing the situation with the help of questions: is this thing definitely not allowed? If you decide that this thing, this action, etc. the child is not allowed, then it should be IMPOSSIBLE FOREVER, until, years later, YOU decide that the child is already allowed to do this. Have you decided now what is possible? This means that this can be done forever, forever, forever. With his uncertainty, the adult violates the world of stability the child needs, causing him suffering. Put yourself in the place of a child: today you can do something, tomorrow you can’t, then again you can, then you can’t, and at the same time you generally cannot understand “why”; you cannot influence the situation with the help of arguments and compelling arguments (remember, this is not given to a 1.5-year-old child). Which way would you choose to achieve what you want? And so... You are a spectator. The actor is “on fire” - literally and figuratively. Yes, the child hit himself. I really feel sorry for him. You feel for him with all your heart. How else? It is important that your sympathy is “with brains”. Make sure that the baby does not harm himself, and... leave him without an appreciative audience, leave the room. Remember, your incorrect reaction will lead to the child becoming hysterical again and again: banging his head, hitting himself with a toy, etc. every time you do.