Hello! If you don't love yourself, then you need someone who will love you. If you need a person who will love you, then you will depend on the approval and evaluation of this person. If you depend on the evaluation and approval of the “other”, then you will be ready to do everything possible to meet the expectations of this “other”. If you are willing to do whatever it takes to meet someone else's expectations, then you are willing to say “yes” to others and “no” to yourself. If you are willing to say no to yourself, then you are willing to give up on yourself. If you are ready to give up yourself, then it will not surprise you that the “other” (the one who should love you) does not consider you worthy of attention, care, tenderness, warmth, affection, love. If the “other” does not give you love, then you are suffering. If you are suffering, then you have several choices: 1. Continue to suffer. Suffering is so sweet, so pleasant, so familiar. Suffering adds a unique bitter taste to this generally tasteless life. If you suffer, you can get sympathy and help. If you suffer too much, you can die. And then they will all know what kind of person they lost. They will cry, but it will be too late. 2. Replace the “bad other” (who does not give love) with a new, good one. Please yourself with the illusion that with this other person, everything will be different, and he will take care, and love, and carry you in your arms, and will be a real man, not like... (you can continue here yourself). 3. Love yourself. If you love yourself, then you don't need anyone's evaluation or approval. (Just don’t confuse assessment and approval with support. Support is needed even by those who have long and deeply loved themselves. Moreover, only those who love themselves are ready to ask others for support, because they do not strive to be perfect, flawless and strong) . If you do not need the evaluation and approval of another, then you can only meet your desires and aspirations. If you can live up to your desires and aspirations, then you can choose to refuse or agree with another person. If you can choose, then you have more options for living your life. If you have more options, then you can allow yourself a rich and interesting life. If life is rich and interesting, it means you have more opportunities for relationships, your favorite job, money, health, recreation, and development. If you take advantage of these opportunities, then you will live the fulfilling life you have always dreamed of. She didn’t say the most important thing. Remember - to love is a verb, which means to love is to act! Get started right now! Love yourself and your loved ones! Sincerely, Yulia Minakova.