In my practice, I often began to encounter cases of irrational fear in various clients, which they acquired during a period of deep childhood experiences, and face them in adulthood. Therefore, I decided to tell you how irrational fears are formed in childhood and result in the internal experiences of adult life. When a child is born, he himself does not know objects and their meaning, nor about fears, nor about limitations, nor about feelings. Children learn about this and form an idea from adults. Parents tell the child about objects, their properties, colors, sensations, but not about feelings, because, usually, adults themselves know little about their feelings and cannot describe them. A person experiences different feelings in any case. And some actions, ideas about life and reactions come precisely from a person’s feelings. Children are very receptive and until the age of 3 they are in sync with their mother and her mood. The child’s well-being depends on the emotional state of the mother or the adult who is next to them. And the child emotionally adapts to this state and tries to react to it as best he can. And an adult who does not understand his feelings and emotions, cannot explain them to the child, express himself objectively, transmits irrational behavior to the child. For example, the child does something, speaks, expresses himself, expresses his feelings, but the parents do not like it, or they get scared and, reacting to the child’s behavior, say phrases like: “What are you doing? You’ll soon drive me into a coffin!” or “When you are in a good mood, then we’ll talk!” What is happening here: parents do not express their feelings, do not indicate what is wrong in the child’s behavior, but only make complaints to him. And the baby at this moment does not understand what is wrong, but only feels the discontent of the parents, or the fear of losing them, or that because of his actions, the parent may die. Here, in addition to fear, a feeling of guilt is also formed. And then the logical chain: if I want, speak out or do something, then my loved one may collapse, reject me, or die, depending on the situation. This means that in order not to be rejected, and for everyone to be alive, I need to behave quietly, not wish for anything and not stick my head out. Another option from practice. It was most convenient for parents when the child was not exposed to any danger, not because he was under their supervision and taught to understand the consequences of actions, but when he sat next to him and did not do anything “dangerous” himself. For example, he doesn’t leave home anywhere, he sits where there is no need to worry about him. To do this, adults begin to come up with horror stories like: “You can’t go anywhere, now is such a scary time, there are only thieves and rapists all around!” Again, without explaining his feelings: “I will worry about you when you are far away from me,” the adult gives an instruction that will discourage the child from committing “dangerous” actions. If this is repeated repeatedly, then what is being formed in the child? “The world is dangerous and scary, I am weak and defenseless, nothing depends on me.” And this attitude can become so ingrained in the subconscious that as adults people begin to be afraid to travel to other cities or travel, for example. Internal irrational fears appear like: I bought a ticket, and my dog’s paw started to hurt, which means everything goes wrong as soon as you leave home. According to the first option, we see that a fear of rejection and loss of a loved one is formed. According to the second, the fear of expressing oneself, for example, embodying and even talking about one’s desires. , feelings, act unusually. From the same irrational behavior of adults, many interpretations of internal fears in their children in the future may or may not be born, depending on individual susceptibility. However, each person can interpret fear differently and manifest it in different ways. Fear of being alone. Fear of being an outcast. Fear of not being accepted. Fear of being misunderstood. Fear of losing opportunities. Options.