From the author: This article will help you find a common language with your child in matters of his upbringing. How to ensure children's discipline, avoiding conflicts and scandals? The concept of “discipline” has existed for a very long time, in every society there are always certain rules that are followed by all members of society, of course, there are exceptions. Children naturally need rules and order, I will say more, they need them and expect them. After all, this makes their life orderly, understandable and safe. Children intuitively feel that their parents’ “don’ts” hide their concern for them. One teenager said that his parents didn’t like him because they allowed him everything, even things that were forbidden to other children. “They just don’t care about me,” he says. So why, despite all this, do children try to break these rules and regulations? There are many reasons, but one of them is that children do not rebel against the rules, but against the way they are implemented. Therefore, let's formulate the question differently. How to find ways to conflict-free discipline of a child? In the life of every child, there must be rules, there should not be too many and they must be flexible. This position will warn you against being raised in an authoritarian style. Finding a middle ground between a tyrant parent and a parent who doesn’t give a damn is helped by the image of the four color zones of the child’s behavior.1. In the green zone we will place everything that he is allowed to do at his own discretion and desire. What toys to play with, what club to join, ....2. In the yellow zone, there are actions in which he is given relative freedom. He is allowed to act according to his own choice, but within certain examples. For example, he can sit down to do his homework whenever he wants, but they must be ready before eight. This zone is very important, since this is where the child receives internal discipline. Try to calmly explain what caused your request. At the same time, emphasize what remains for his free choice. When children feel respect for their desire to be independent and free, they more easily accept parental restrictions. 3. The orange zone contains actions that, in general, are not welcomed by us, but are allowed in special circumstances. For example, the baby had a terrible dream and he is scared, you take him with you until he calms down. Exceptions prove the rules, don't be afraid to make small exceptions, children can be very grateful for them.4. In the last red zone there are actions of the child that are unacceptable under any circumstances. You can’t hit, break things, play with fire,... The list of “don’ts” naturally grows with the child. It is important that the list is compiled together with the child, and he understands why this action applies to a specific zone. Later, with age, this model will become fundamental in the individual development of the child and the formation of his moral standards, qualities and rules of behavior..