Working in a day psychiatric hospital, I often encounter elderly people suffering from neurotic disorders, less often depression.👨‍👩‍👧‍👧People who put their lives into raising children and grandchildren. 🍷People who spend their entire lives saving loved ones from alcoholism and drug addiction.🧐People who know how to live “correctly.”🌕People who derive their value from “need” and “use.” But it happens that children grow up and become busy and “all-knowing” ". Alcoholics die (in general, a fatal disease). And there is no one to save. And there is no one to live for. Old meanings are lost. And one cannot live for oneself. And in general, how is it? Live for myself? What do I want from this life? What kind of life do I want? And ahead is emptiness and meaninglessness. And so, hello depression. But it happens that the need to be “needed” does not go away. And this need is also layered with the prohibition to “impose.” An internal conflict arises, which leads to neurosis😨. And neurosis gives a crooked secondary benefit in that very care and need. And this is the dead end from which it is difficult to find a way out. What is the way out of the dead end? Turn around and go back. Learn to live for yourself. Learn to distinguish between YOUR needs and desires. Learn to understand what you want. What kind of life makes you alive (alive). Give others the right to live their lives, even without you. Living your life does not mean abandoning your loved ones. Often this is even for the benefit of the family. Children often need a rested and happy mother, and not a crystal clean apartment and a mountain of toys or a bunch of sections. Salvation alcoholic - drowns the same alcoholic. Because by saving him, you prevent him from facing his problems face to face. Perhaps this somehow keeps him afloat and prevents him from drowning. But then there is no need to solve problems; the motive for a sober life is not particularly “drawn”. And it’s somehow hard for me. How do you understand that you are not living your life? Ask yourself questions - do I suffer when I live the way I live? Am I putting off my needs/wants for someone else? Are my dreams empty and unrealistic? Is my life not important? And find a place for your desires and needs in your life. Even small ones, but yours. You have to start somewhere. Where do you start??