At home I was severely punished: What does the Russian singer from the Forbes “30 under 30” list do? Mia Boyka (Mia Boyka) in an interview with “Hello”. The girl talked about strict teachers at school, parents, and the path to popularity. She frankly shared: “I can’t completely open up to anyone. I’m used to coping and going through all the difficulties on my own. I don’t have a person whom I trust one hundred percent.”... How often do I hear from clients who had punishments and reproaches in their childhood, and another abuse about lack of trust in others! Too often, alas. But I wanted to dedicate this material to...What does the Russian singer from the Forbes “30 under 30” list do? In addition to creativity, Mia Boyka “always tries to find time for self-development.” “My brain is greedy for information. I constantly listen to lectures on psychology, audio books in the car, read how world brands were created*,” the girl shared in an interview. Mia is engaged in self-development, but what is it? Self-development is one of life’s values, which consists in the transition of a person from one state to another higher quality, new, complex. Self-development can be carried out in various aspects of life. It may not exist. If you improve your own quality, but the environment does not change or degrades, then changes in your social circle are natural. For example, you have been friends since first grade. After school you went to university, and your boyfriend (girlfriend) went to work. You grew up intellectually and continued to develop yourself spiritually, he (s) did not. You are on a retreat, he (s) is on a party. Different interests (or lack thereof) led to the fact that the friendship actually ended. For example, Mia admitted in an interview that she always consciously refused alcohol and cigarettes that were offered to her. After all, they are harmful to health. At the same time, many of her peers choose to poison their own bodies. That’s the difference: she develops and becomes better, they don’t. Photographer: Anton Novoseltsev In the photo: Mia BoykaIs self-development important? Yes, because it is a vital value, that is, it fills existence on Earth with meaning and allows you to synthesize the hormone serotonin (one of the hormones of happiness). Main aspects of self-development: Improving one’s own quality can occur in various areas of life: family, sexual, spiritual, and so on. The choice is always up to the individual. For example, Mia studies psychology, brand history, vocals, and so on. Self-development can be directed: at oneself; at the world around us (usually carried out in parallel). Self-directed self-development allows you to solve problems with mental health, it will be carried out through reflection, introspection, work with a psychologist, mindfulness-style awareness practices, and so on. What is directed outward is manifested through clear setting of goals, striving for them, acquiring new skills that bring us closer to our plans. The only barrier in self-development is the lack of understanding “Why do I need this”? If we take the SMART coaching model, this is a lack of relevance (R). While a person will not understand the meaning, his behavior will be meaningless. For example, from all sides they talk about the importance of earning a million, but why? Or they talk about the need for meditation, but why are they needed? When a person understands why, he becomes motivated to self-development. And he will overcome any barriers (if he does not have organic, biological problems). For example, Mia Boyka understands why she needs vocals and knowledge of the Chinese language (to gain fans in China), so she continues to develop herself. In what area are you developing? (*full interview HERE, source Hello) Sincerely, practicing psychologist #for_thinking Peter Galigarov, author of books