From the author: The future has arrived. High technologies have firmly entered our lives. Some children, even before they learn to speak, know how to use electronic gadgets. And they get used to them. Parents begin to worry. First, they try to solve the problem of gadget mania on their own. Then they turn to a psychologist for hypnosis. Historically, I do not work with children, at least with preschoolers, in the hypnosis format. Nevertheless, almost a quarter of the requests that clients come to me with concern children - ranging from the hysterical-infantile: “Here, I’ll bring him to you, and do with him what you want, as long as he listens to his parents!” and ending with a mature one: “Help me change so that I can improve my relationship with my child.” The “do what you want with him” option is definitely not mine, and I can only recommend a good pediatric specialist. The option “change so as to improve relationships” is already about hypnosis. One of the big problems in raising today's children is the problem of electronic gadgets. Often children do not play in them - children live in them. And this applies not only to high school students who hang out on social networks: gadget mania is rapidly growing younger. I wouldn’t be surprised if it turns out that some baby has already been given a tablet or smartphone for christening... Educators and psychologists have been sounding the alarm for a long time, but the most interested parties - parents - only realized it relatively recently. By the way, this is not surprising: the current generation of parents of preschool children and primary schoolchildren are people who were formed in the era of high technology development, and for them the use of gadgets is a natural part of life. And children from a very early age see how moms and dads spend a lot, a lot of time with small and cute electronic things, poking their fingers at them. There is someone to imitate. By the way, there are some parents who are happy that their child can be entertained. I quote a phrase from a young mother of a four-year-old boy, which I wrote down verbatim: “It’s so convenient: you give him a tablet, and you won’t see or hear him all day long!” But this young lady was just one of those parents who ask to “hypnotize a child so that he will obey” (also a quote). She was prompted to contact a specialist solely by irritation due to the fact that the child began to refuse to sleep, eat and walk without a tablet; the scandals that he created every time she tried to take away the gadget; and even pressure from older relatives. I refused to work together, and they never reached the child psychologist, whose contact information I offered to the boy’s mother... Most parents, having realized that their child’s love for gadgets has already become a serious problem, first try to resolve the situation in a simple way: gently or severely, gradually or immediately, they limit the child’s access to the “toy” - they say, that’s enough, go out, put together a mosaic or play with a doll. And I’ll put away the tablet (laptop, smartphone)... But that’s not the case: tears, protests, resentments, disobedience, plaintive requests, and in especially severe cases, as happens with addictions - severe anxiety, anxiety. This is where mom and dad realize: something has gone wrong. And they come to me - sometimes together, sometimes one of the parents. And in such a situation, I do everything that other psychologists do - that is, I work with a specific person who sits at my appointment. Two questions that concern almost all such clients: Why did this happen? What to do now? Of course, After the first consultation, I always have my own thoughts about “why this happened.” In my opinion, the most common reason is that the current generation of young parents, firstly, has catastrophically lacked the experience of parenting passed on from hand to hand: they grew up in the 90s, and their own mothers and fathers had “no time for fat.” “If only I were alive,” the whole country was surviving. And not everyone has the understanding that a child needs to be occupied, and not just occupied with something. Secondly, well, it wasn’t.