Oops! It happened! He blacklisted you after the breakup. He is your lover/ex-husband/partner. Let's find out the reasons. First ask yourself why suddenly you became persona non grata? - Did you call him after the breakup? Did you bother him with your tears, manipulations, pressed for pity? - Did you try to win him back through mutual friends? - Did you smear tar on his door and puncture his tires? - Did you aggressively write anonymous letters for work? If your answers are negative, then this is only a “cockroach” of your lover . Did you break up with him? You didn’t fight his troubles? You adequately, albeit painfully, accepted his point of view (yes, my love, I understand you. You have a duty to your wife, with whom you share a common business, and to your children, who need to be supported legs. So be it your way)? Do you continue to love him even like this? Infantile, confused, limited in his feelings, extremely cowardly and hopeless? If you answered “Yes” to all the questions, then you are a holy woman! So, what are these passions about the blacklist? The man decided that it would be better this way. To whom? That's right - to himself. In this case, the man could not overcome his craving for you and brought you into the emergency as a forbidden fruit, as a temptress, as a witch. Why? Most likely, you are a wonderful couple and the two of you had a crazy good time. You had a blast together. You might not get out of bed for days. You spent time together...But then the man (especially if it’s a triangle) began to feel like he couldn’t live without you. And the worst thing is that something needs to be decided! This is where the infantility is, Peter Pan wakes up in his completely unpresentable form. The man decided, like Peter Pan, to feel like a hero. And you (not without the help of an attack from the environment and social institutions) will be declared an enemy of the people. Well, just like the bad old days. A witch is a witch, “What if you put a spell on me?”, “What if you decided to encroach on my living space, and my children are registered there?”, “what if” maybe there are millions. But this does not mean that it’s true. A man, so destroy the ideal image of you, begins to create an anti-myth. In particular, instead of being kind, in his mind you turn out to be evil, instead of sensual and sexual, you turn out to be an insatiable harlot... And the main thing is that he considers himself an “exemplary family man” and even... a member of some kind of reputable organization. Accordingly, he shifts all the blame (completely illusory) onto you. This is from the series “I came up with it myself, I believed it myself.” We are talking about the infantilism, the extremely unstable personality of a man who is extremely afraid of you, your charm, your attractiveness. Moreover, living all his 40, 50, or even 60 (!!@) years of his life without love, he cannot even imagine that such a feeling is possible. He cannot believe that you give him love, because no one has loved him in his life. An unhappy child, doomed to dislike, deprived of the care and affection of his parents. It was this state of non-love as a norm that became the limitation of his entire life, his comfort zone... What kind of love is there if throughout his childhood his parents mercilessly beat him, whipped him with belts, every offense was cruelly punished. Can this person give eco-friendly love? Maybe if he works on himself. Can you change something? No. Don't take responsibility for it. Let him think and decide for himself. The Universe (Unconscious) leads him to an understanding of simple truths, but consciousness blocks them. It’s better to think about why you need this experience yourself? If you find it difficult, consult a psychologist. Sincerely, psychologist Nadezhda Vyacheslavovna Arkhangelskaya If you feel like you are in a vicious circle, you feel dependent on your experiences, you do not understand your partner’s behavior, sign up for online consultations or WhatsApp 8 927 282 38 78