When we part with a loved one, we die. There is no other way to call this state of being lost in the world. This departure from reality, regardless of its duration, one must be able to feel, live, and get over it. Traditional techniques of Zen Buddhism can come to the rescue here. Try these simple steps and you might be surprised by the results.1. In any difficult and incomprehensible situation - chop wood, carry water. This Zen principle calls for doing the simplest things when everything around is burning, and it seems that the world has completely collapsed. Instead of looking at your poor phone a hundred times a day, social networks, watch over your ex-partner in his habitat - start doing simple things. Go shopping at the store, clean the house, start learning a foreign language, remember an abandoned hobby, find a new hobby. Use your hands and feet, do something, get distracted. Become “firewood and water”, that is, do the work truthfully, enthusiastically and conscientiously.2. Learn to be idle. Spring will come, the flowers will bloom on their own. This does not mean at all that you have to be passive, and the relationship will improve on its own. But your calmness will definitely have a positive impact on the situation and even, inexplicably, will add harmony to the world. It turns out that communication between people can be wonderful without a stream of convulsive actions, without forcing the other person to play according to your script. Both of you, like trees and flowers, are part of the world order. And you are often greatly mistaken that with your experiences you can influence some natural course of things. It’s not for nothing that they say: become quieter yourself, and you will hear more. And you will understand more, and ultimately, you will achieve more. Perhaps you will choose the right strategy for action with your partner.3. If you are walking, just walk, if you are sitting, just sit. Don’t doubt, no matter what you do. This is about the fact that when you are abandoned, you still remain in your field: you sit, you walk, you lie down. You live in your own house, communicate with your friends, you have your own cat and dog. The place of study or work is also familiar. And maybe you don’t need to achieve everything at once, at the same time? It is possible that by focusing on something specific, you can better understand the essence of the other person's recent actions. Correctly assess your role in this communication. And an unbiased look at the problem is worth a lot! 4. If you are hungry, cook yourself some rice. When you're tired, just sleep. This is the principle of "simple simplicity." People tend to complicate everything, especially what concerns them personally. It is useful to look at yourself from the outside with an “uncluttered” look. Realize that you and your partner did not discover America in the art of breaking up. You should not indulge in reflection on any occasion, analyze the behavior of your ex, or make unrealistic plans. Look for reasons for events where there are none. Attribute a hidden meaning to all the actions of a loved one. Life often turns out to be much simpler. Let him go, let the situation go. And according to the law of karma, good things will come back to you! Zen Buddhism is an ancient philosophical system. It paradoxically helps to understand oneself and establish communication. Brings people's actions into line with the balance of natural forces. Gives ancient universal techniques to help us. Techniques such as relaxation, meditation, focusing on simple things are healing in any life situation. And when breaking up, these actions will help you choose the right line of behavior and attitude towards what is happening. Will allow you to experience separation less traumatically.