How can you help a child overcome his fears? How can you help a child who is in the grip of mystical logical connections and is afraid of monsters and monstrosities?📌Don’t devalue.Children’s fears may seem unimportant to adults, but to a child they are real. Accept your child's fear as much as their joy or sadness.📌Remain resilient. You don't have to know how to deal with your child's specific fear, but you can demonstrate calmness and a willingness to help. Just stay with your child in this feeling, without trying to “shut up the fear” with candy. Talk to the child about what scares him. Working with fear occurs through mastering it: talk, draw, create fear (the child himself can suggest a way or respond to proposed by you).When a frightening image takes shape, you can already do something with it!👻Tear up the drawn monster, draw a bow or cage for the ghost, create a protector from plasticine, tell a fairy tale about why the monster became evil, find out what the monster wants ...📌Be there. With the support of an adult, the child learns to maintain contact with himself and the world. When there is a stable parent nearby, fear no longer fills the child’s reality completely: there is also the fear of a monster and, for example, a dad who, knowing that the monster sits under the bed, remains calm. Share your emotions with your child. To cope with fear, you need to recognize it. It is difficult for children to understand how fear comes, how it manifests itself in the body and what to do with it. Parents can talk to their child about their experiences of emotions. Gradually, the child will begin to become aware of his emotions and learn to talk about it.✔I was very scared when you ran out onto the road.✔That little dog made me laugh!✔I got angry with my aunt, couldn’t resist and told her something rude.✔I see how you swayed on chair, scared, perhaps? Support your child in experiencing fear. When an adult experiences strong fear, he is unlikely to require decisive action from himself. You can ask your child what will help him find the strength to cope with anxiety: hugs, conversation, pause, etc. Remember the hidden benefits. Unconscious children's fears have a hidden benefit, for example, a child may begin to be afraid of the dark after he has his own room (fear of losing contact with his parents) so that mom and dad will allow him to sleep with them. The child is not aware of this motive, but an adult can observe what benefits the child receives, and therefore what the child lacks. Try to find new channels of communication (according to the baby's age and needs) and ways to compensate for care, love, attention in other areas of the child's life. For example, spend time together during bath time and read at night. When the unconscious cause of fear goes away, its very appearance will decrease. 📌 Be afraid and do it. Not all adults can boast of this ability, but a child can also have it. Fear is debilitating if a person forbids himself to experience it—containment takes up energy that could be spent on action. If a person allows himself to be afraid, he can start doing something! Be afraid and draw a monster, be afraid of the dentist and go to him, be afraid of the monster and look for it with a flashlight under the bed with your older brother... ⭐Children’s fears most often are “ tip of the iceberg”, anxiety for something very significant for the child (safety, parental love, acceptance, etc.), which is expressed in a specific way. When a child thinks globally, an adult can help him gain the experience that fear is a temporary and natural emotion that can be learned to live through.✍ What works for your children? Write your life hacks 😉