From the author: The other day, one client asked me to tell her how to start living without a man in the house. And so this memo “How to Prepare for Divorce” was born. The other day, one client asked me to tell her how to start living without a man in the house. And so this memo “How to prepare for divorce” was born. When I asked my ex-husband to move out and began to build my new free or single life, I felt like I had jumped without a parachute. And this despite the fact that I was preparing for divorce. I prepared psychologically, gained courage, measured my capabilities. Now I understand that it is not possible to fully prepare for this. But if possible, it is better to prepare. Assess your resources - financial and moral. Assess your capabilities. How much money does it take to support your life? Especially if you have a child and you will have to be responsible not only for yourself. For a couple of months, keep a list of expenses. This way you can understand what items your expenses consist of and how you can optimize them. What kind of help can you count on from your ex-husband? I’m talking about alimony. An unpleasant topic, but you still have to think about it. Although divorce is generally not pleasant. Whose support can you count on? Psychological support. Friends, family? It is important to have someone to rely on. And the more such people there are, the better. Because putting all your worries on someone alone is risky. He may get tired of your worries. And be prepared for unpleasant surprises, especially from those closest to you. For example, my parents reacted very negatively to my decision. It’s not that I counted on them, but their position greatly added to my worries and mental pain. Think about it. A psychologist can help you. If possible, consult a psychologist, we know how to psychologically survive a divorce and rebuild your life. How not to collapse in this whirlwind and help children during the divorce. We have the tools, and I also have the experience. Personal therapy was a powerful help for me. Now the children will not have it easy either. They may become angry at one or both parents, start getting sick, start acting aggressively at school, cry and feel sad. Seeing your child in pain is very difficult. And also understand that you have a direct relationship with her. They will need to be supported and brought to their senses. You will need to talk to them a lot. And it’s better to be prepared for this. Life according to plan Think about how you will “settle” everyday issues: who can sharpen your knives, for example, or look after a sick child? It is better if you have a prepared plan of action in unforeseen situations. This will help avoid unnecessary hassle and anxiety. Task for the year And be prepared for the fact that the divorce will last at least a year. Don’t demand that you pull yourself together and move on as if nothing happened. Otherwise, getting stuck or causing problems cannot be avoided. But you want to be happy in a new relationship? Otherwise, why are you getting divorced? This is how the memo turned out. I believe that I did not cover everything, but the main thing that I encountered. And in conclusion, I want to say that breaking up a relationship is an unpleasant thing, but not at all as scary as I thought before. The main thing is, if you are already divorced, do not ignore your crisis. Let your psyche readjust and get used to your new life. There is definitely light at the end of this tunnel. I checked)) Published on Me for myself!