Absolutely everyone needs parental love and grows up thanks to the people who gave him life... or took on such responsibility. But the tiny toddler grows up and every day he feels that he can manage on his own. It has already been proven that children are always wiser and smarter than their parents, and let's say with generations, this fact is becoming more and more noticeable. And now this smart, wealthy person no longer needs his parents, and can move on his own. At this moment, there are 3 options for what will happen next... 1⃣The best option for everyone - parents understand that now the child has his own life and they don’t interfere with it. You can even live with your parents, but when everyone has their own life, and the child respects the life of the parents, and the parents also respect the lives of the children, then there is trust, mutual understanding and love. 2⃣The situation when a child becomes toxic - he depends on his parents morally. This happens when a mother or father tied a child to themselves for a very long time, decided everything for him, and did not adapt him to independent life. A child may be 30 years old, not be able to speak clearly, and cook his own pasta, and in general not know “what is it like to live on your own?” After all, parents always decided everything. 3⃣ Role change. We remember that children are wiser and smarter than their parents. Well, parents sometimes notice this and transfer all their problems onto their children. They do not take responsibility for their actions, they always try to drag the child into scandals and demand decisions from him. Forgetting that he is their child and he, as the youngest, has no right to solve the problems of his parents. But all children love their parents, and we always feel sorry for everyone we love. And when we have the opportunity, we try to help and solve the problems of dad or mom. However, as soon as we have done this once, our parents feel a state of carefree life - and begin to use it constantly. They argue for their behavior by saying that they invested their souls in the child and now he owes them! But this is by no means true! This role reversal leads to even bigger problems and the relationship becomes toxic. Where a child suffers from his parents, moreover, he cannot build his life, since he has parents who absorb all his energy, time and strength. Stopping being a parent to your parents (forgive the tautology) is difficult, but possible. After all, parents now feel like little children, so at any opportunity to return their powers and responsibility to them, they will be capricious, indignant, freak out and do a lot of things that are never easy to survive. The most important thing is to remember that this all happens because you love them and being in such a position will worsen all areas of life for each participant in this situation. Just understand that you cannot solve all the problems for your parents! NEVER! The more you do this, the more of these problems they have. You are not helping, but harming with your help. Even more important: do not be offended by them, do not get angry and do not be a Savior! And remember that you love them and they gave you life, for which it is worth thanking them! And only in such a state of mind can you become a child again, giving them their role as parents! Remember that no matter how much you love your parents, being their child is your greatest benefactor.!