From the author: Psychotherapist, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league (Moscow), expert on television programs, sexologist, educational psychologist, NLP master, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer , coach. Working as a family psychologist in Moscow, knowing about the problems first-hand, I decided to touch upon such a complex and frequently encountered topic as duty to parents. I would like to say the following. We all emerged from childhood; relationships in families developed differently. Often we live by the rules that were established in our family, and do not realize that we are already adults. I would like to highlight this topic in terms of duty to our parents. In this regard, I remember my recent work as a family psychologist in Moscow. A woman with whom we were solving problems in her own family came to see me. During the process of work, she complained that her back hurt, and she especially felt tension in the withers area. When they began to understand what this problematic condition consists of, one of the aspects turned out to be her relationship with her parents. She was raised in an authoritarian family and was taught that she always owed her parents something (care, support, taking their problems upon herself, submission, etc.). The client herself was surprised by the information that was revealed, since she had not fully realized it before. After some work, we changed her problem state, and the client immediately felt light, as if she had dropped a burden that she had been carrying for many years. Her new conviction was that she owed no one anything, and was free to act as she wanted. This would henceforth become her natural state. She knows that she will take care of her parents, but at her own request. The client realized that she was not obligated to listen to her mother’s moral teachings when she herself was already forty years old. And the duty turned into gratitude, which she, like a relay baton, will now pass on to her children. This is what her inner wisdom told her. She recently called me and said that after the work done, the relationship with her mother had improved, she began to naturally have a desire to help her parents, but without tension. I remembered another interesting case from my practice as a family psychologist. I advised a client from Voronezh, who, at 56 years old, reported to her mother like a girl, always called and said where she was and what she was doing. Working with clients as a psychologist and psychotherapist, I noticed that if a moment arises when an adult reports to his mother for every step, then he, in fact, behaves like a child. Sometimes such people have an unsettled personal life, because the role of a daughter is sometimes more important for them than the role of a wife or mother, the same thing happens with men. You probably know such examples. Again, I want to say as a family psychologist, if a person is satisfied with this situation, then let him continue to live like that, it’s his choice. And if he feels some kind of influence on his life in a negative aspect, then it is better to solve this problem, so as not to regret later. I encourage everyone to take care of their parents, but let this care be natural, and not a duty, obligation or duty. Focus on yourself first. First you, and then everyone else. Remember that you are alone and there is no other person in the world. You are one and only. If you feel comfortable and good within yourself, then others will too. Good luck!