Based on today's consultation. Very often a woman cannot put herself at the center of her life. Lives for the sake of children, parents or husband. In someone’s life, work rules. In such a situation, the following questions arise: Why does a man not take into account my needs and interests? Why do my parents criticize me? Why am I not appreciated at work? Why do children have a consumerist attitude? Why do friends and acquaintances violate the boundaries of my personal space and use it to their advantage? Obviously, the way out of a life situation of this kind is long-term and multidimensional. It makes sense to increase contact with yourself. Gradually become aware of your needs. Starting from what you want for dinner today and ending with whether you want to help a person when he really asks you for it. End the habit of doing something, or communicating with someone to the detriment of yourself. Constantly ask yourself: Am I really have to do this? Can I do this? Can I handle it? Is it safe for me? Do I now want to meet, work, fulfill a request, communicate, lend, etc.? Is this my desire? Should I do this? Do you owe it to yourself or will it be an obligation given to someone? Make it a rule to understand what is happening to you now and what is happening in your life. What is the point of dancing all your life out of inertia to someone else’s tune and pretending that this is not happening to you. Wake up finally, if you have pushed yourself into the far corner of your life. Give yourself the right to refuse a meeting, a project, a request. If your body protests, if this is to the detriment of your interests. We already had to do so many things: obey, behave well, study well, get married, become a mother, build a successful career, earn a lot, etc. Maybe it’s time to stop and think about what you want? When? With whom? From whom? Ask yourself how important it is to you what you want and whether you want anything at all? - You don’t feel like working today! Is this important? - You want emotional/sexual intimacy! Is this important? - You spend today alone with yourself. Eat ice cream, go on water slides, buy a kaleidoscope! Is this important? When you know what you want and what you don’t. A clear broadcast of your personal positions comes from you. Those around you begin to hear you, understand you and take you into account. With love, Tsvetana Bogovaya