There comes a moment in every person’s life when he asks himself (or is asked) the question: “Why do I live?” Most often the answer is something like this: “I live to grow, learn, get a good job, get married, have children, etc.” The sequence may change, but many people perceive creating a family as one of their main life goals. Probably, this is a natural desire - to continue one’s family and create the necessary conditions for this, both for women and men. From time immemorial, a man was the breadwinner, the protector of the family, and the woman took care of the housework, raising children, and creating family comfort. However, civilization and the modern world have radically changed the family roles of men and women; these roles have become mixed, blurred, distributed between them, which often causes certain family problems. Every girl from childhood dreams of a wedding dress, of a prince on a white horse, plays “daughters” -mother", in dishes, etc. The girl grows up, meets her “prince,” falls in love with him, and gets married. What is happening to this girl in the family, in everyday life? Of course, she happily takes on the role of a wife, happily cooks, washes, irons, and creates comfort in one word. When a child appears, the woman treats him precisely as the “fruit” of love, and this crisis for the family goes much smoother. Of course, there are difficult, crisis periods in such a family, when a woman may feel tied to certain circumstances. Let's take a closer look at this. What exactly can cause a woman to feel like slavery in her own family: Firstly, the irrational distribution of responsibilities. Often, women take on absolutely all the housework - everything they can do, but Russian women can hammer nails, tighten screws, and if they really need to, change the faucet. All this, of course, is not correct. It’s the 21st century, a woman’s and a man’s workload at work is quite commensurate, so household responsibilities also need to be shared with the men you love, leaving truly women’s chores – cooking, creating coziness, and raising children – in half. Secondly, the use modern technologies in the household. Today, many different devices and units have been developed to facilitate household work. Many of them are quite expensive, so many “good” housewives strive to save their family budget on these expensive miracles of technology. And completely in vain! Buying a good, expensive vacuum cleaner costs three cheap ones, which will last much less than one expensive one. Washing machine - I think it’s not worth talking about how much time it saves! A good ironing system or a good iron will significantly save ironing time. Dishwasher - saves time washing dishes. I'm not even talking about all kinds of fabric softeners, multicookers, convection ovens, marinators, etc. Scientists (probably most of them are women) try for us, for women, so that we do not feel driven into a corner by the bustle of home, but enjoy raising children and strengthening the family, which is much more important than washing dishes, laundry and ironing. So let's keep up with technological progress. Thirdly, limiting social connections to women. Such situations are also not uncommon in our world, when a woman, a wife, is constantly engaged in self-flagellation due to the fact that she devotes little time to her family due to work, study, housekeeping, etc. Therefore, he deliberately limits himself from communication with the outside world. This also significantly complicates the emotional state of a woman and creates a feeling of slavery. In this case, I think it is not difficult to organize family leisure in such a way that everyone communicates - both children and husbands. Some families agree with each other on “stag parties” and “bachelorette parties” according to a certain schedule. Every family has its own laws, but every family member has the right to communicate with people... Fourthly, the doom of children. Many women believe that all their free timeneed to work with children. This also creates emotional tension, because in order to work with children, you first need to come up with something, then get the child interested in it, etc. I also believe that the time you spend with your child and everything you do with him should be natural, like all parenting in general. And the child himself knows when he needs you, since sometimes children still need to be given the opportunity to be alone and play on their own (especially when the child already goes to kindergarten or school). Your task is to be aware of the nature of the game (even and especially if this game is a computer game!), sometimes even to eavesdrop on “what” your child is playing about (after all, the game is the child’s inner world, his thoughts and feelings). There may be certain games that you play together. You need to organize classes, but not too often, and not too intrusively, and even if you don’t organize them, but simply read books to your child that he likes, play with him if he asks for it (or by mutual agreement), together do household chores, then your child will benefit much more in intellectual, psychological and emotional development. Fifthly, we expect returns. Many women become such house slaves, they realize this, all this is terribly painful for them, but instead of freeing themselves from these shackles, they wait for “liberation”, understanding from their spouse, they expect return, maybe gratitude. Thus, they transfer responsibility for their essentially voluntary slavery to their unfortunate spouses, who do not understand what we are talking about at all, when the wife herself, of her own free will, scrubs the corners of the apartment around the clock, and puffs in the kitchen preparing breakfast, which smoothly flows into lunch and dinner , and at night he stands at the ironing board, and then collapses to sleep and, without strength, tries to get out of performing, and I’m not afraid of this word, “marital duties.” And then in some conflict he demands gratitude for all these useful deeds. Please note - most husbands do not ask their wives to perform certain household duties, they sincerely believe that you do this because you just want to, and very quickly get used to “not interfering”, and then evaluate these tasks exclusively as yours, and the desire to help no longer arises. But there is no point in scolding them for this, because in fact this slavery is voluntary. No one will die if you ask your husband to wash the dishes, iron the clothes or cook dinner; maybe he has long dreamed of doing this, but was embarrassed to offer (just be careful with criticism later, otherwise he will not agree again). Therefore, since a woman came up with these things for herself, then there is no need to expect return and gratitude - there is no need to spoil the mood for yourself and others by creating a family conflict. It’s better to divide household chores equally (see first). Slavery is, of course, a very conventional concept, but it immediately hurts the ear and makes you think about who a wife is and what she is needed for. Is it really for cooking, cleaning, washing and ironing? Dear women, wives! Love yourself! After all, you are beautiful! And it’s great that you have a family, the most unique family in the world, there’s nothing like it anywhere else. The family is the unit of society, it is the roots, it is from the family that a person, a personality, grows, and this is the defining task - to raise our children to be good, kind people. How can a slave raise children? And what can she teach them? And the main question is: what is this slavery for? After all, we are people, and the most important human quality is the ability to experience and preserve, cherish love. This is what a happy family is built on, where a woman is the keeper of the hearth and comfort, where a woman becomes a mother. After all, in a family, not only children develop, but also the woman herself, as a person who constantly discovers new sides of herself, as a mother who grows and learns with her child, as a wife who, at each new marital stage, learns and builds relationships with husband. Let's be real Women.