Why is caring for someone so important? And is it even important? Let's think about it. When parents have a child, his survival is determined by taking care of him, because he himself is not able to do this. Over time, the child is taught independence and given this responsibility. It happens, unfortunately, that parents worry so much about their child that they never relinquish this function. As a result, a person grows up completely carefree and unadapted to independent life. Yes, he can get married, but there his spouse will worry about him like a parent. Usually nothing good comes of such families. It turns out that care is like a relay baton that is passed on from generation to generation. The child should gradually be allowed to hold this stick, look at it, and come into contact with it. Then, in the form of a game, give him the opportunity to manage it himself. Over time, cases and orders are determined when a teenager independently carries this baton. And thus, gradually, a person will be able to take the function of care and go with it into the adult world. The journey does not end here, the most interesting moments lie ahead. When an adult leaves his parents’ home, he may feel that he is obliged to his parents. After all, they raised him, fed him, clothed him, and generally took care of him. There is some probability that this person will take care of his mom and dad, brother or sister. Overall this is good, right? Yes, provided that none of the above are able to take care of themselves on their own. Or when they ask for this input of some specific event. But, if everything is in order, and an adult son or daughter shows parental care in his father’s house, then this is a disaster. In this case, it’s as if he doesn’t carry the baton forward through life, but for some reason brings it back. One might say that it is as if he is “repaying a debt.” This is impossible! Having received the baton, it must be passed on further, to another person, and not to the same person from whom it was received. In family life, newborn children take the baton. In this way, a son or daughter “repays their debt” to their parents, but at the same time accepts a new member of the family, clan. Thus, care will become a gift that helps to develop the system, strengthen it, and not destroy it if the orders are confused. As a conclusion, we can paraphrase the well-known saying - care, care pass to Fedot, from Fedot to Yakov, from Yakov to every new member in the family. Well, if a person does not know how to take care of himself, feels obligated to others, or carries the baton to his father’s house without asking for it, then there are already distortions that need to be corrected.