So often one comes across thoughts about what a girl grows up like without a father, or with a father who is cold and distant. But what it’s like for a girl who is raised by a mother who “seems to be absent”, expresses her expresses feelings rudely or does not express them at all, perceives her daughter as a rival, and maybe even as her worst enemy - it is not customary to talk about this, because a mother loves her child by default, and even if it doesn’t look like love at all, they say that she “loves” as best he can." The topic is incredibly painful. Most “grown girls” at sessions with psychologists protect and idolize their mother to the last, not paying attention to the fact that they are actually protecting not their mother from punishment, but themselves from the truth. The introduction turned out to be voluminous, but if you agree with what is written higher, you can quickly decide on therapy, or do quality work if you are already visiting a psychologist. UNFAVORITE DAUGHTER. 5 SIGNS. 1. Permanent feeling of guilt. The child cannot believe that the person who is the whole universe for him will not experience mutual feelings, and begins to think that it is he who is to blame for the lack of love. Of course, it is not the child’s fault, but the process of regular self-accusation has already become established in the form of a habit and will accompany him throughout his life.2. Choosing toxic partners and friends. For an unloved daughter, criticism and ignorance are more familiar and understandable than approval and attention. 3. Difficulties in defending boundaries. Neglect of her needs. An unloved daughter always hopes that by sacrificing herself, she will earn love. Spoiler - it won't deserve it.4. Insecure attachments and pathological jealousy. A woman with an anxious type of attachment is constantly waiting to be betrayed, noticing in any word, gesture and facial expression of her interlocutor signs that she needs to be on guard. She needs constant reassurance that she can trust, and ironically, her wariness often creates relationships characterized by extreme emotional instability, which, of course, only increases anxiety. 5. Difficulties with controlling emotions, a tendency to anxiety and depression. This point is a consequence of all the previous ones. And in every person, the “unloved daughter” looks for a mother - in a leader, in her man and even in a friend, so relationships are often distorted and need to be realized the reason is very difficult. Of course, this can be perfectly “treated” in psychotherapy, and I also want to recommend two books that will help you understand yourself and your story - Marina Markatun “The Mother Who Doesn’t Love” and Peg Streep “The Unloved Daughter.” And Your Mother Loved You?