I am sure that many remember Milne’s poem, translated by Samuel Marshak, “The House That Jack Built.” This is, in my opinion, an ideal example of a sequence of events, the narrative of which begins from the end point, reminiscent of a children's pyramid, only here it happens the other way around, a significant event is reserved for the ending of the story. It is at the end that it turns out that there would be nothing to talk about if two roosters had not woken up the shepherd. If this had not happened, the heroes would not have been able to appear before us. combined into a certain sequence. The image of two roosters starting a habitual cycle reminded me of how behavioral patterns learned in childhood operate and guide us in our lives. And we, like Jack, who built his house in which there was no place for him, allow our habits to lead for us, forgetting who is the owner of the house. Now about what is our “home”. This is the totality of our body, consciousness and other people’s beliefs that habitually guide us. In Freud's language these are: Id, Ego and Superego. Here, the Id is our body, its energy (I can), the Ego is the part of the personality that interacts with the environment (I want) and the Super-ego, the usual attitudes, values ​​and ideals that are laid in us primarily by our parents (you must). When the Super-ego puts too much pressure on the child’s Ego, the child, with the help of a creative adaptation, can take the position of a victim, defending himself with learned helplessness, or he has an internal critic or a tough parent who puts pressure on the inner child, causing him to feel guilty and self-aggression. Thus, from childhood we find ourselves in the Karpman triangle, being alternately Victim, Aggressor and Rescuer. In the first case, throwing responsibility for our lives onto others, in the second we become a manipulator, periodically showing concern for our victims. Gradually, each of us develops a certain character, which, like Jack's house, we consider our own, when in fact it is a chain of learned, ossified habits that starts on its own without our participation. To become the full owner of our home, we need to regain the ability of free creative adaptation that we had before the intolerable pressure on our personality in childhood forced us to adapt to circumstances in a certain way. Now we are adults and we can choose for ourselves whether to allow the tit to eat our grain or not. Is it necessary for a shepherd to quarrel with a cowshed, etc. We can allow ourselves to become full masters of our psyche and be responsible for what methods we choose to realize our desires, without experiencing feelings of powerlessness or guilt. We can be in both a child’s and an adult’s position, understanding how it works and what we want to get as a result of our actions at the moment. To be honest, since childhood I really want Jack to finally put his house in order, and you?