From the author: Article for Divorce Info magazine, No. 3. May, 2012. Life after divorce. For those over 40 :). Life after divorce? It continues! Yes, divorce is stressful. By the way, the intensity of emotions is comparable to a wedding. If you go through this stage competently, work on mistakes, accept your contribution (and give your partner his part of the responsibility) in what has happened, and not look for someone to blame on the outside, then such an event as divorce can be a turning point in a person’s fate. I would not say the usual phrase about “starting a new life” - a new life was given to us once by our parents, and no one will give it to us again, but it is possible to continue it from a new page, and not from a blank sheet of paper! After all, how we build our destiny largely depends on ourselves. “After 40, life is just beginning,” the heroine of a famous film used to say. Yes, a woman at that age has already accomplished a lot: she received an education, got married, gave birth to children, began to understand life like an adult... There is life experience, there is the unique charm of a mature woman, there is wisdom, there is that inner beauty that young girls have freedom - they have a lot of things! It is important to accept this within yourself. Without asking yourself questions for which there is no answer (why is this to me, how could he, why is she better, etc.), without self-flagellation and suffering - there is no solution to this! Often, divorce is necessary - so that each of the partners can take a step forward in order to develop. Divorce occurs when there is no development of relationships, the balance is disturbed... And sometimes divorce does not solve anything, a person freezes in his state of resentment, grief... It is up to you to decide what is more effective for you: to suffer and blame everything and everyone around you, or to move on. After some time, many admit that divorce was an impetus for new achievements, for new love, for new feelings, for new opportunities, etc.! Of course, there are those who, 15 years later, talk about their divorce as if it happened a couple months ago... Who do you think has a more comfortable life? The choice is yours (we always make our own choices - no one will do it for us)! With the help of a psychologist, you can certainly go through this stage more effectively..