“...People are born Princes and Princesses, and their parents turn them into Frogs. To heal, you need to shed the skin of the Frog and become a Prince or Princess again...”Eric BerneIn a personal growth group, you can do truly transformative work. This is the best investment in yourself! Fate, fate, planid, fate, karma... At different times it was called differently. In all centuries, people have tried to understand their purpose and predict the main stages of their life's journey. And they came to different conclusions: from the optimistic “man is the architect of his own happiness” to the pessimistic “you can’t run away from fate.” In psychology there is such a concept: a life script (script). A script is like a plan, a sketch of a future life. The script is “recorded” in the child’s subconscious, most often before the age of seven. Parents' statements about others, about themselves, about the child, their life example, personal decisions of the smallest person - all this determines the main content of the script. It is in childhood that it is determined whether a person will subsequently feel like a loser or a winner, whether he will be able to fight for himself, trust people and take care of loved ones. Like any story, the script of any person has a beginning, middle and end. It contains various heroes - good and evil, as well as some minor characters, the main theme and side storylines. This scenario can be comical, it can be tragic, it can be interesting or not very interesting, it can be heroic or shameful. In early childhood, everyone decides how he will live and how he will die, and we call this plan, always present in the human mind, a script. Everyday behavior can be deceiving, but the most important decisions have already been made: what type of person will he choose as a spouse, what kind of bed will he die in, and who will be next to him at that moment. Each person has his own life script. Until we are aware of our script, we We live exactly according to our unconscious life plan. We create situations, find people, choose spouses, jobs, make decisions, while embodying our life scenario. In this sense, each person is programmed with his own life scenario. They often say about a strong, successful person: “He is from the breed of winners.” As a rule, winners know how to manage themselves and soberly assess their strengths and weaknesses. They know what they will do tomorrow, they find themselves in the right place at the right time, they are always lucky. They can create a lot of problems for those around them: they are always inventing something, organizing, involving people in something, fighting, “cutting off the heads of dragons,” without doubting for a minute that victory will be theirs. Winners feel that life is a success - it is written on their face, and, among other things, the very image of a successful person, satisfied with life, really helps them succeed. But victory and success are relative concepts, it is more a state of mind, rather than external attributes. The winner is the one who set a goal and achieved it. It is more important for a winner how he himself evaluates his achievements, and not how others evaluate them. The winner’s scenario is formed by people whose parents believed in the capabilities of their children, invested a lot of effort in them and supported them, and never tired of repeating: “You will succeed.” And children grow up confident. Unfortunately, not all of us have such a positive experience growing up; not everyone received enough support and self-confidence. And sometimes, when we are born, we are faced with the fact that our family can be a place where we experience a lot of traumatic experiences or where our parents’ love has taken on destructive forms for us. Everyone has heard stories about how, from generation to generation, women in some family marry alcoholics. Or families in which several generations of women live together, but for some reason the men don’t stick around. You’ve probably met men who complain, “I’ve been married three times, and each time I cheated, they’re all like that.” And the older we get, the more often we notice elements of behavior in ourselves.