There are two common types of psychological vampirism - aggression and whining. Aggressive is when a person harshly throws out his negative emotions on you, which overwhelm him. I once saw a kind of master class on this topic. In the city of Kursk in 1996, a campaigner for a gubernatorial candidate from the LDPR party entered a crowded bus, waited until someone stepped on his foot in the aisle and raised a great high. He came out of this conversation flushed and smiling, and the whole bus was buzzing as if alarmed hive a few more stops. There was no way people could digest what they were fed. Solution: in such cases, do not take it to heart, do not take personally the fact that the person is yelling. This is not my process. This is his process. Maybe yelling is good for his psyche. You can even entertain yourself a little by watching his attempts and imagining him in a somewhat comical light (with panties on his head). Increasing the distance in such cases can also be useful. The most important thing a psychologist needs to remember is: “If a person screams loudly, it means somewhere in the depths of his soul, he is in unbearable pain. There is an ocean of pain inside him. And you can work with this ocean using any psychological technique, in any approach.*** The second type of vampirism is whiners. These are special people in your environment who constantly compare themselves to others not in their favor. “It’s good for you, you have legs, but I don’t have legs.” Sergei Makovetsky very famously played such a character in the film “Operation Happy New Year.” If aggressive vampires overload their negativity on us and thereby force us to process our emotional garbage and waste our energy on it, then whiners steal our positive energy and work like vacuum cleaners. Sometimes whining vampires disguise themselves as characters who need your free service, your free time, your free vest for his tears. Solution: Go into total refusal. Formulate a very clear imperative within yourself: “I won’t give it” or “It didn’t bloom for you.” And don’t turn into donors and sponsors, don’t turn into a soup kitchen. My best mentor in this matter was my colleague Ivan Ivanovich. One day, back in 1992, he came up to me at work and said: “Yuri, how quickly you type, your hands fly like swallows!” At that very moment, my hands cramped. I literally couldn't continue working, couldn't type. I asked him: “Ivan Ivanovich, how do you do this?” He smiled from ear to ear and replied: “That’s not me!” and went off, smiling, about his business. Frightened by the consequences, I turned for help. The psychotherapist tells me: “It’s not he who takes something away from you and thereby harms you. It’s you who give everything to him!” I said: “What should I do?” He said to me: “If you don’t give to him, he won’t be able to take. Because you are the master of your energy. Only you can decide how, with whom and for what reason to share energy, only you can decide what will happen in your life.” I believed and literally the next day I tried to do it. Ivan Ivanovich comes towards me, smiling from ear to ear, like a cat to sour cream. And I said to myself: “I won’t give you anything. You won’t get anything today.” And he seemed to hit a transparent door and flew away with a grimace of annoyance, and went to pester others. And I rubbed my hands and said under my breath: “It works!”*** I’ll tell you about other methods of self-regulation in the following issues. **I will be happy to answer your questions! Online constellation group - here. Individual online consultations - here Tel. 84952266880 and 89055656655 Skype yury2266880