Have you decided on psychotherapy? Perhaps even made an appointment? This is the first, important and difficult step. I hope these few tips help you along your journey. Good luck. Try to formulate what you want from psychotherapy. What should I change about myself? What goals to achieve? What kind of help from a psychologist are you looking for? Even if it doesn’t turn out too clearly, it is important that you have an idea of ​​​​the desired results. If you don’t like the psychologist from the very beginning, does not give you a feeling of at least some trust and hope for change, do not torture yourself, change him. Psychotherapy is a shared effort between two people and for it to be effective, it is important that these people treat each other well. Be as open as possible for you. Help from a psychologist is impossible in what you do not talk about. As a rule, a person needs time to start talking about the most serious problems, this is natural. But if you come for psychological help because you are having difficulties in your sex life, try not to devote all your meetings to talking about difficulties at work. If, despite your efforts, you cannot talk about some problems, tell the psychologist that there are such problems. You will have the opportunity to discuss feelings, thoughts and concerns that are preventing you from being honest. Quite often, such a discussion allows you to start talking about the most painful topics. Or indicate that you will need to return to this topic later, when you are ready. Talk about your feelings as much as possible. Our emotions and feelings are the most reliable road to understanding who we are, what we need and what we are running from. Feelings cannot be wrong or incorrect, they can only be misinterpreted. At an appointment with a psychologist, you will be able to figure out how your emotions are connected to the events happening in your life. This will help you better understand yourself and your relationships with others and understand what you want to change in your life and how. Talk to a psychologist about the feelings and thoughts that the psychologist evokes in you. The idea of ​​psychotherapy is very simple: if you have difficulties in relationships with other people, then sooner or later they will manifest themselves in relationships with a psychologist, because he is also a person. But, unlike ordinary life, in psychotherapy you can notice what is happening between you and another person, discuss it and, if you see fit, change it. Psychotherapy is designed in such a way that it will reproduce relationships with all significant people in your life, regardless of their gender and age. Therefore, it is very important that you talk about the experiences that the psychologist causes. He won't judge. And if it seemed to you that he was judging, tell him about it. Remember: a good psychologist will be attentive to any of your feelings. Be specific. Try to speak without generalizing, but describing real situations. A description of a specific situation will help the psychologist formulate his own vision of what is happening in your life and share it with you. It is quite possible that this will be a different, unusual view for you, which will allow you to look at the situation differently. Try in real life what you learned in psychotherapy. One of the important tasks of psychological help is to discover and change your usual ways of responding. At one time (almost certainly in childhood) these were appropriate ways to fit in. Most likely, they are still good in some circumstances. The problem is usually that you use them without noticing, and when they are ineffective or even harmful. The psychologist's help is to discover such habitual ways of behaving. help you understand what fears and desires underlie the choice of these methods, for what purposes they are suitable and for what purposes they are not so suitable. This is very important, but it is not enough for change. Don’t be lazy, try to discover them in your everyday life. First, just notice that this is already a lot. Then try to behave differently. Look for other ways.