From the author: From responses to letters from readers of the magazine "Psychology and Me" My Olya is in the tenth grade, graduation is just around the corner. It seems to me that it’s time to decide on a future profession in order to improve in core subjects. But my daughter doesn't know who she wants to be. He says: when I understand, I’ll tell you. And in general, it seems to me that she does not show any interest in studying. Like, not interesting. I have already tried all the methods of motivation. He told me that if you study well, you will enter a university, which means you can count on a decent job and, therefore, a normal future. She has one answer: she's bored at school. How to awaken in her the desire to think about the future? Oleg. Oleg, your concern about your daughter’s future is very understandable, but her position also deserves attention. It’s very good that the girl honestly tells you that she doesn’t know who she wants to be; this is a sign of trust in her parents on her part. But not in every family a child can say that he’s not interested in studying and doesn’t know who he wants to be . It often happens that parents put pressure with the help of their authority, even blackmail and scare a young man, just to force him to study at school, at a university, to force him to get an education, and then an unloved profession. You show patience and understanding, try different ways of motivation, look for ways to reach your child. Of course, it’s difficult to admit that your child doesn’t want to study, that school is boring and that she doesn’t want to think about the future. Oleg, did you know, What does Olya really want, what does she dream about? What does he like to do? Does the girl have a hobby? You want a normal future for your child. What is this normal future like in your opinion? Perhaps your daughter does not share your views on her future?... And she does not like the life that you draw for her? Maybe such a future even scares her, and she is trying to avoid such a future by all means available to her? .. Ask her about what kind of life she would like to live, even if it seems fantastic or not worthy of attention to you. But this way you can understand how to help your daughter decide…