It’s very good that this concept has now become so popular among the people. It, of course, became hackneyed from this. And a little annoying too. But its importance is still extraordinary. Both men and women suffer from self-dislike. But women more often. To put it very simply, self-dislike is putting another person with his needs above himself and his needs. Women suffer from self-dislike more often because we have such a culture, mentality and upbringing. And also religion. For a long time, a woman was heavily dependent on a man. A woman in the first year of raising a child has changed hormonal levels, which helps her adapt to the child in order to better grasp his needs. In literature and cinema, the image of women who renounce themselves and follow a man in everything is glorified. As a result, such people who do not love themselves end up dissatisfied with life, marriage, and themselves. On the Internet you can find a lot of advice on how to love yourself. I’ll list some that are quite good: appeal to your feelings, and, based on your feelings, decide what you want and what you don’t want to do (here you don’t have to go to extremes - a crying child, of course, you need to calm down and swaddle him if he screams, despite my “I don’t want to”; I’ll also have to submit an annual report at work). It is important to start small: what you like and don’t like to eat, how and with whom to spend your free time, when to clean the house, etc.🔻be able to firmly say “no”, this is about personality boundaries🔻throw out all insults addressed to yourself from your vocabulary 🔻reduce self-criticism 🔻through the power of praising yourself and telling yourself compliments 🔻make time and things to do only for yourself, spend time with yourself alone 🔻give yourself gifts and sometimes pamper yourself. This list is not complete, you can add points there yourself. But, unfortunately, it is very, very rare that you can cultivate this self-love on your own, relying on all these recommendations. Naturally, consultations are not complete without mentioning these points. But the most important thing that real psychotherapy gives is 1⃣learn to notice manifestations of self-dislike, since these things constantly shoot out automatically, and the person does not even pay attention to these pokes; 2⃣in safe conditions, first accumulate this self-love from the therapist; 3⃣transfer inside your personal experience of client-therapeutic relationships, appropriation of this self-love; 4⃣ and, in general, it is ideal to find a safe social environment that broadcasts and nourishes love and acceptance (at least 1-2 people).