Task for couples who often quarrel. If family relationships leave much to be desired and are already unbearable, and there is no way to allocate money for a psychologist from the family budget, then try to resolve the problem yourself. Do a simple task, using the method of "non-violent communication". Each of you must honestly express your own state on a piece of paper (or via email or SMS), without accusations or criticism. Mandatory condition: you must give an accurate, clear and obvious description of the situation that does not suit you; specific, real observations, without generalizations of interpretations and judgments, in terms of actions, without the words “always” and “never”, without “guessing the thoughts” of another person. Write something for which you can confidently obtain agreement that this is an objective description of the situation. For example, instead of: “You always don’t wash the dishes after yourself!” - “when I see an unwashed plate on the table...”1. Describe specific behaviors you observe (see, hear, remember) that interfere with your well-being. For example, “when I see you sitting near the TV after work...”2. add your feelings. How do you feel at this moment? For example, “when I see you sitting near the TV after work...”... I feel lonely and sad...” 3. Next, add what you want (your need), what desire or intention of yours is not satisfied. Remember - Do not judge or blame. For example, “when I see you sitting near the TV after work...”... I feel lonely and sad... because I am needy. in communication with you..."4. add your “request” - a specific action that you would like to receive. “When I see you sitting near the TV after work...”... I feel lonely and sad... because I need to communicate with you. ..and I would like you to hug me and say: my dear, I feel so good at home next to you, thank you for having me." 5. Exchange "letters" with your partner and read them alone. Stay spend some time alone with a letter from your partner, feel it, maybe at this moment you will understand and suddenly see your “blind spots” in relation to the person close to you. Note: if the task is difficult to cope with, write to me (in a personal message), I’ll help you correct your letters to each other.www.irinafeodoro.ru