TWELVE LIVES OF A PERSON The first time I heard the phrase: “I remember in my youth...” I heard at an evening meeting with classmates ten years after school. At a recent meeting with classmates dedicated to the 20th anniversary of graduation, my classmates, discussing the topic of another divorce of the cool beauty Anzhelka, came to the conclusion that she would not marry again... “because we are already so old!...?” Wow! They sailed, they arrived, so as not to say that they crawled... but what should we do for the remaining forty years? And it’s not really about being “married”, but about the taste of life or something... After all, the homespun truth of the words of my classmates was that very many People, indeed, by the age of forty lose the very desire to live. At the same time, a woman’s fate is a little more dramatic than a man’s, because in the view of that notorious, almost stagnant majority or social matrix, in modern terms, a woman’s life ends at the age of the bride. It’s not difficult to check my words - just look at the TV screen. In modern cinema there is practically no, “I’m not afraid of this word,” role model among middle-aged women. You can, of course, recall the Soviet fairy tale “Moscow Doesn’t Believe in Tears” and the phrase that became a catchphrase: “At 40, life just begins...”, that’s actually all... Although, by the way, not everyone needs to become a factory director like the main character of the film . Perhaps the only thing that can soften the situation is the Russian proverb “at 45, the woman is a berry again...” At first glance, a man can hide behind his career, but he doesn’t have many chances to escape from the impending changes of age; the midlife crisis for men is even more difficult than for women. But for some reason man is given a long life? And it is unlikely that in the Heavenly Office there are such misanthropes who only crave one thing - our torment from a long life. In addition, there are people (a little true!) to whom the saying “My years are my wealth” certainly applies. I think that the point here is not only that they are lucky in life, but also in a certain intuitive knowledge that they have - knowledge about the main human resource - His Majesty Time. And in each period it is given for certain purposes. According to the knowledge of professional (!) astrology, there are 12 such periods in a person’s life, each with its own tasks. Perhaps we should listen to ancient wisdom? Life first from birth to one year Now there are few people left who seriously think that this charming Masyanya in the crib does not understand anything. The same wise and deep look that at this age a person has a chance to get by the age of 70, if he tries very hard, of course! And now the main task of the little alien is to settle into a world that is completely different from his mother’s cozy tummy. You need to (and very quickly!) get comfortable in space (where is up, where is down and who are “left and right”), understand for yourself what kind of beast this is called “time” - before, there was always food whenever you wanted, and now my mother always thinks about some time there. And then color and sounds - there are so many of them! And they are remembered for the rest of their lives. Dad again! Who is it? And then there is a whole sea called relatives... oh, there are so many of them that in the first 40 days it is better for them to love the child from a distance - there will never be a real information shock. Well, and then in this world they touch, stroke and admire the baby - the bigger, the better. He must know that he is beautiful, otherwise he will suffer all his life. Second life from one year to three So, welcome to the first age crisis - from 9 months to about 1 year. Space-time has already been studied, it's time to act! Toys are studied by disassembling, breaking and chewing. You have to try everything: mom’s hair, dad’s tie and your own leg, also an unknown object. Toys take up more - people take up less, but mom and dad are still the most important people. This age is the time of learning love, and if the studies are successful, then this habit of love will be enough forall his life, so it’s impossible to love a baby again. Sometimes he needs solitude in the company of toys, and also in physical education - after all, you need to learn to sit, walk and even run - a small home stadium won’t hurt. If you don’t stock up on health at this age, it will also last you a lifetime. The third life from three to seven The little butuz turns into a capricious brawler, cocky and pugnacious. There is no need to interfere, it is better to redirect these “storms in a glass” into play, because the main thing at this age is the development of dexterity and coordination. And that means running into nature - to flowers, animals, a lake and active exploration of the world. The first outings into the world are already appearing - kindergarten with a group of peers, but adults: dad, mom, grandparents are still more important. This age, as asserted K. Chukovsky - the time of linguistic genius, the time of language learning. If he does not learn to speak well until he is seven years old, he will suffer from tongue-tiedness all his life. So at night the child listens with pleasure not only to fairy tales, but also to everything that is called good literature. Well, and, of course, the need for approval from family is colossal. In fact, the stubborn little one is very afraid of being left without support: so if dad scolds, then mom explains why and always says that they both love the baby. He still needs an atmosphere of universal adoration. The fourth life from seven to twelve For the first time, in first grade... This is already serious. All the true abilities of a person are revealed at this time. “I have a photo club, and I also want to sing...” And also write, count, read, help with housework, go to the store, darn socks and, most importantly, learn to study. The risk of overload, in general, is small, in At this age, a wonderful anti-overload mechanism works - if the child gets tired, he will simply fall asleep. However, running, swimming, sports games are very necessary, time requires gaining endurance and hardening. Friendship with peers is becoming more and more important, but family is still important . There is no longer a need for universal adoration, you can no longer get carried away by enthusiastic cooing, praise is necessary, but fairly, to the point - any deception will be exposed with indignation. Orders and demands are perceived worse and worse; personal example works best. Friendships with adults who know how to do their job well can last a lifetime. It will be good if they turn out to be dad or mom. Fifth life from twelve to seventeen That most difficult transitional age...Parents are dismissed from among the inhabitants of Olympus, their place in the psychology of a teenager is taken by a society of peers - a world of strict hierarchy and a concrete test of survival in a society of their own kind. Dreams, plans, criticism of ancestors and frantic ambitions in combined with an inferiority complex. As a cure for this scourge, all sorts of competitions, Olympiads, creative competitions and sports competitions are indispensable. And, of course, the company of peers... It will be great if teenage ambitions are fueled by skillful hands and directed in a positive direction. This is the time of first falling in love, turning on sexual energy, but it is better to realize it a little later. Everything has its time. The sixth life from seventeen to twenty-four It seems that there was such a film “My love in the third year”... However, just like in all the others - the most important activity during this period. And if in the previous age there was more eroticism, now it should be vigorously supplemented by sex in all its diversity. Its absence at this age is evil, both psychological and physiological. So military discipline and strict isolation for the age of love are very dangerous. Serving in the army is, of course, an important matter, but it would be better to solve this issue through alternative service. You already want to run away from your family, run away from school... It’s better if this desire is transformed into a search for many professions, because early specialization is not useful for a young person . Now “experience is the son of difficult mistakes” is more important than his)