When a mother drinks children or the generic reasons for alcoholism Part 1. In search of internal support. The beginning of this story was not entirely related to alcohol, but more about the quality of life of a participant in the group “Children and Childbirth” connections”, her desire to be successful in life, to build those relationships with the opposite sex that suit her. In my work, I very often encounter the fact that self-confidence, self-esteem and self-love are associated with childhood experiences of communicating with their parents. And what was first experienced in the form of sensory experience in contact with physical parents, then moves into the child’s psyche in the form of figures of internal mothers and fathers. In adults, these “inner parents” perform a number of very important functions: self-control, support, different methods of motivation (mainly carrots, sticks, or a balance of both), self-confidence. Sometimes “inner moms and dads” can lose their original constructive role. Especially if the primary childhood experience was painful, and the parents’ behavior was far from rational. Then these parts of the child’s consciousness become internal judges, punishers, tormentors. And we can talk about the “inner sadistic mother”, the suffering (masochistic) character, internal demons, saboteurs, guards, etc. It is with these internal figures that you can fight even after the death of your real parents, prove something to them and devote your whole life to this. Very often, by a certain time in a person’s life, physical parents have nothing in common with internal figures and sincerely do not understand why any neutral statement to their beloved child causes a very strong reaction in the latter. The solution to this fascination is very simple; in negotiations between two people there is always a mirror of distortion - the mediator and figurehead is the internal image of mom and dad. To be fair, let’s say that parents also have a number of projections on their child: for example, he is still small, he won’t be able to cope on his own, and a number of others. That is why, in the “Gender and Ancestral Connections” group, participants often perform intrapsychic (expanding consciousness or clarifying the way the psyche functions) constellations, which make it possible to improve the internal image of parents and dramatically improve the quality of inner life. At the group, a young girl of 29 years old (protagonist of the constellation) spoke about that she has practically no contact with her father. She doesn't feel supported by him at all. As she believed, this is what prevents her from achieving what she wants in life and building long-term relationships with men. Her father used to drink. From childhood, she remembered her drunken father, who fell asleep right in the chair. What was absolutely amazing in her story was that the mother (the participant’s grandmother) herself poured alcohol for her sons and daughter. At the moment, the father has stopped drinking, but is emotionally distant and indifferent. But his sister still drinks and, which surprised even the narrator herself, her grandmother continues to support her. Subsequently, it turned out that such strange behavior had a hidden reason. And the alcoholism of the participant’s aunt can be regarded as a kind of payment for what is described below. Initially, the protag agent asked to do a constellation about the relationship with her father. In the process of clarifying the request, the participant came to the conclusion that the most important thing she would like to receive from her father is support. That is why they began to work with the internal image of the father and “collect” internal feelings of support. The very need for support from parents is very often discussed by participants in various psychotherapeutic groups. Different people put their own meaning into the concept of support. From my point of view, the basis for understanding such a need is usually the experience we acquired in childhood. When we were little and were taught to walk, our parents could provide experiences of varying quality - from joy and positivity to frustration and punishment. The experience gained is then transferred