How often do we hear that self-esteem should be healthy, that is, adequate. There are many psychological tests on this matter. Here I will give 5 simple questions, answering which you will understand everything yourself. Just answer sincerely. Then you will be able to determine whether you have self-esteem problems or not. You yourself figure out what the interlocutor meant. Let's say you are a girl. On a date, the guy said with admiration that you have appetizing curves. How do you feel about this? Are you offended? Are you going to think that he thinks you are fat? But perhaps the guy really wanted to give a compliment. He was fascinated by your forms, worthy of the brush of Michelangelo. After all, you must admit that the word “appetizing” itself does not have a negative connotation. If this statement is true for you, then you should think about it. You are constantly gnawing at a groundless feeling of guilt. Another situation: You inadvertently soiled a person’s coat in front of a crowd. Yes, this is an unpleasant situation. You apologized and the person accepted your apology. He shook off his sleeve and said that everything was fine and there was no need to worry. What do you think about this? You will continue to replay this situation in your head for a long time, feeling guilty in front of a stranger who left and forgot about your existence. This is another alarming signal regarding your self-perception. Susceptibility to public opinion We all tend to make mistakes, make mistakes, agree. This is absolutely no reason to punish yourself for it every time. A person with adequate self-esteem is completely unaffected by outside opinions. He knows everything about himself and accepts himself as he is. You are easily manipulated by other people. You are easily manipulated, shamed, you are very worried about phrases thrown accidentally or intentionally: “well, why are you so stupid”, “you always do everything wrong”, “teach you, teach you - nothing but mistakes.” For a person with low self-esteem, these phrases hurt. He will constantly be engaged in self-examination, looking for imperfections in himself. You often scold yourself. Constant self-flagellation is a sign of unhealthy self-esteem. The phrases “how stupid I am,” oh, I’m armless,” “what a bungler I am” are characteristic of people with low self-esteem. In everyday life, confident people with healthy self-esteem do not have such remarks. Now analyze your answers. If you recognize yourself in all five, you urgently need to change something. You don't need to compare yourself with others, you don't need to try to reach someone else's standard. You are an individual! You have your own goals, opportunities and motivations. You have your own life! What and how happens to other people should not bother you. If you cannot correct your self-esteem on your own, try contacting a psychologist. After all, healthy self-esteem is the key to a happy life..