Sex is considered a great cure for bad moods. It is said to release the hormone oxytocin as well as endorphins, which means we sleep better, feel calmer and have a more positive outlook on life. So basically, sex is guaranteed to make us feel great every time, right? Wrong. The truth is that some forms of sex can actually make you feel bad instead of happy. The myth that all sex makes us feel good can actually be dangerous. This means that those who do feel depressed after sex may be afraid to talk about it or seek support. 10 TYPES OF SEX THAT CAN CAUSE BAD MOOD AND STRESS 1. Having sex when deep down you don't want it. Many of us are not honest with ourselves on the sexual front. It's possible that you're codependent, so caught up in pleasing your partner that you've lost track of your own desires. You may feel like you "should" want sex because you're married or in love with your partner, so ignore your tiredness or mood and say "Yes" when deep down you want to sleep or work. Or that you are afraid to say about your own desire for physical intimacy, because you are used to agreeing with the whims of your partner and do not want to hear another refusal. Or maybe you just won't admit to yourself that the person you like to spend time with is simply not interested in you sexually, but you're trying to convince yourself that you should be more than friends. If you often feel a little low immediately after sex, or even the day after, ask yourself next time, is this really what I want right now? Check it out for yourself. Can the thought of sex make you feel horny? Or do you feel tension in your stomach and shoulders, as well as a sense of fear? What's the worst that could happen if you say, "No, not right now"? 2. Sex that doesn't satisfy you There are two sides to this - there's sex where there's not enough of it, and there's sex where there's actually too much of it. Both can lead to feelings of overwhelm. Having sex that isn't enough to satisfy you (either due to a problem on your partner's part, a lack of communication, or simply a mismatch in sexual preferences) can lead to a buildup of frustration and confusion. instead, your partner pushes you too hard into things you don't like or just don't enjoy, this can lead to resentment and low self-esteem. It's important to talk to each other and not leave things unsaid. 3. Make-up sex 'Make-up sex' happens. from time to time and has its purpose. But if sex has become a substitute for conflict resolution, then sex will likely end up leaving you feeling upset. Constantly denying and suppressing your feelings leads to an accumulation of negative emotions and thoughts and is not at all a viable long-term tactic. 4. Sex that causes physical pain. If sex hurts you and you ignore it out of fear of it, or the belief that it's "just in your head," then it's no wonder sex can leave you feeling overwhelmed every time. If sex is painful, it's important to get to the bottom of it. Pain during sex can be caused by a medical condition (in both men and women). If you leave everything unchanged, things can only get worse. And even if it's 'just in your head,' that doesn't mean it's not a serious problem and that you don't deserve attention and help to fix it. If you're suffering from an emotional or psychological problem that's causing you to feel pain, a therapist or sex therapist can help. 5. Sex in an open relationship. The idea of ​​an “open relationship.”may seem exciting. But without very clear communication and boundaries, open relationships can lead to confusion, pain, and sex that leaves you feeling jealous or taken advantage of. It's important to know how to keep a relationship open before you jump into it, and not just say yes when your partner asks and you're afraid to say no when that's not really what you want. If you're going to try this format, think about how to maintain a healthy, open relationship. 6. Casual sex. The study, conducted by researchers at California State University, surveyed nearly 4,000 heterosexual college students about their mood and sexual habits and reported a link between casual sex and higher rates of depression and anxiety in both men and women. Of course, the study only looked at people from one age group and didn't look at what other stressors were in their lives, so the results could be disputed. At the same time, given that many of us have low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence, it makes sense that casual sex is more likely to cause a low mood than a high one. Casual sex does not create an atmosphere of trust or safety, but it does create the feeling that we are being judged on appearance and functionality, which can leave us feeling guilty and ashamed. A more recent study conducted at Cornell University in America found that in one research group, those who felt better about casual sex were narcissistic men. 7. Sex for depression. While it's true that sometimes liking sex when you're depressed can lead to a boost in mood, that's certainly not always the case. If your depression is at all related to self-esteem, self-confidence, or childhood abuse, sex may make you feel worse by triggering old negative beliefs. And if your depression is related to fear of rejection and you have sex with someone you don't feel safe with, then you can definitely feel unsettled and unstable afterwards. 8. Addictive sex (including pornography) Addictions exist because of the high level of pleasure they offer. But, as they say, what goes up must come down. And sex addiction is no different. If you use sex as a distraction from reality or to numb emotional pain, even though you may get a greater “high” from sex than most people, you will also inevitably become depressed soon after. Pornography is increasingly becoming a form of addictive sex, and it is your brain that is getting hooked. Dr. Norman Doidge, in his popular book The Brain Healing Itself, says that pornography is highly addictive because viewing it triggers chemicals in the brain that stimulate the “pleasure center.” Because modern pornography is now generally much more "sophisticated" than before, it causes an even stronger chemical reaction, causing the brain to quickly become addictive, even if you just started watching out of natural curiosity. 9. Sex on the Internet One step further than porn is interactive sex. A study of people using online sex sites, conducted at the University of Technology in Melbourne, surveyed 1,325 men in Australia and America who spent an average of 12 hours a week using online chat rooms, webcams or Internet porn. They found that 27% experienced moderate to severe depression, 30% experienced high levels of anxiety, and 35% experienced moderate to severe stress. While it is true that people seeking sex online are likely already seeking stress relief or feeling depressed and/or lonely and seeking distraction, the study also found that the larger the study group